When I see this posted about certain people , it angers me so much

SW-User · 2022-10-08T07:02:46-04:00

Life - When I see this posted about certain people , it angers me so much (Quote) It does not... (34 replies).

"THEY WERE ALWAYS NICE/KIND TO ME"

It does not vindicate the person and you're belittling the experience or trauma that others may have experienced, you're high and mighty opinions are traumatising to others, so maybe hold up and think before you go around spouting how such and such a person was always lovely/kind or whatever, or how their illness excuses their behaviour.

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NerdyPotato ·

I have mixed feelings about that. I know very well how many entirely different faces people can have in different interactions, so my experience with someone by no means invalidates a whole other experience by someone else.

But I've also had my fair share on here and offline of people making ridiculous accusations about me that simply weren't true. So unless I saw the toxic behavior towards another person myself, I won't end a friendship based on some third party claims.

If they treat me well and I don't see them treating others badly, we remain friends. That doesn't mean I won't offer empathy and sympathy to someone who feels treated badly though and it becomes a different story when I witness the bullying myself. Treating me well isn't enough. I judge people on how they treat everyone, but only what I know for sure.