sometimes I hate that I care about people too much

I'm not a religious person nor do i follow a religion. I think they are all corrupt and have been used (still being used) as a tool to oppress people. However, I do pray for others. I'm walking down the street and I see someone in need. I have the strongest urge to give them a dollar or some food. Yesterday, I saw someone asking for some money. He claimed it was for "food." I went to a local subways restaurant and bought a sandwich for him. Dude started complaining that it had mayonnaise when I gave it to him. So he didn't want the sandwich. Even with that, I had the urge to pray that this person gets the helps he needs to get off the streets. It annoys me that I care for people that don't deserve shit.

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hikikomorii · 31-35

Just because they are homeless it doesnt mean that they have to accept anything given to them. Your mindset is creepy

empanadas · 31-35, M

@hikikomorii wtf 😂 says the catfish with no posts

Stark

@hikikomorii Saying his mindset is creepy for giving someone a sandwich who’s begging for money is a bit drastic. If they don’t want to accept just anything then maybe they shouldn’t beg 🤷‍♀️. Not everyone has money just to hand out to them. I think your mindset is ridiculous.

WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F

@hikikomorii even if they didn’t like what was given, they could say thank you and accept the kindness (doesn’t mean they had to eat it)

It was a free meal for someone who is on the street begging… clearly they just wanted money for their next fix. Someone cared enough to try and get food to put in their belly

hikikomorii · 31-35

@Stark i have been in social care classes before with ex homeless people. They have expressed feeling humiliated being approached given just any food without being talked to or asked what they would like ,like a human being. How would you feel if your date just ordered for you for example without asking what you would like? Its dehumanizining

WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F

@hikikomorii oh come off it… it’s still someone giving something (ever receive a gift nobody asked you about first and politely accept even though you want to burn it?). Humiliated by being given a free sandwich, but not to ask for money from pockets of others who may just be scraping by themselves?

I’m sure it does feel dehumanizing… but that is how that situation is going to feel. You’re begging on the street. People try to help, and others just ignore you

empanadas · 31-35, M

@hikikomorii honestly I doubt that. If someone is actually in the streets and hungry, the fact someone actually acknowledges them with an act of kindness is showing them, they are human. Not just someone to ignore. There's a sense of entitlement in the people you claim to have been in class for.

WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F

@hikikomorii in the way you’re acting it’s like I should go up to them with a pen and pad and apron on and ask how they like their steak cooked and wait on them.

Stark

@hikikomorii That’s ridiculous so people are just suppose to cater to them as if they’re on a date because they’re homeless and they’re begging ? I think that’s a bit of a selfish mindset to have honestly and instead they should be grateful people are going out of their way to spend their money which they’re not required to in giving them what they’re able to give.

As warywitch mention if anything, I think it’s more humiliating begging on the streets asking for money or as most of the signs I’ve read say “anything helps” and then turning it down because you want something better.