I would like to hear your views regarding the idea that women need to be protected

I am mostly interested in women's opinions but if you guys got sth to say, say it.. it's a good willed based concept, but I think results in strange conditions. What are your views, needs/ takes ?

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SW-User

The last time a guy said he'd protect me, turns out he was the one I needed protecting from.
It's nice to know a man will help when needed, but that should be a basic human thing.

being · 36-40, F

@SW-User you know what, reading Lacrimagirl's comment and questioning myself whether i am offering the safe space i am referring to, I realize I am not. Long ago, after being taken advantage of, I decided to stop caring much for the other and care for myself instead. I don't know, is it the right way ? To take care of ourselves each and drop the concept of relying onto the other ? Aren't relationships about dependency too, without it being sickening ?
I am confused it seems

SW-User

@being I don't think I'll ever quit relying on those I know care and have my best interests at heart. I will know the signs of someone I shouldn't allow to take over and act like I can't help myself at all... and then turns on me.
There's a healthy balance if people keep that in mind.
Mace isn't going to protect you every time, but it can help. Still, sometimes... we still need a hero.