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I would like to hear your views regarding the idea that women need to be protected

I am mostly interested in women's opinions but if you guys got sth to say, say it.. it's a good willed based concept, but I think results in strange conditions. What are your views, needs/ takes ?
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I don't need to be protected and I don't think any other woman needs to be protected. Receiving, giving and wanting protection should in no way be tied to a specific gender.
Men could want or express a need for protection too but societal norms make it hard for them.

In general people should protect each other. If someone is not physically strong there are alternatives like carrying mace.
I feel like some toxic men use this idea that women need to be protected as a way to control them and unfortunately disempowered women reproduce this mindset.
There is nothing wrong with looking for protection from your partner but men being protectors shouldn't be seen as a "natural" state.
being · 36-40, F
@SW-User I appreciate your opinion.
You are right, this way of viewing it results in disempowerment.
In general people should protect each other
I like this. Each other and the rest of living beings. That way it would have been more relaxing to rest on each others protection and care, unlike now..
Lilnonames · F
@SW-User cant ssy anything better than this
No. Women and girls should be raised with the idea that it’s okay to protect themselves, and should be taught how. When I took self-defense classes, the hardest part for me was getting past the feeling of not wanting to hurt someone, and the instructor advised me that many women share that disadvantage. Unfortunately, an attacker would have no compunctions about harming them. But girls (even now) are raised to be gentle and docile, in most cultures. Boys aren’t.

The other aspect of women as a "protected" class is, traditionally that protection has included control. Restricting your freedoms in order to keep you safe.
We’re human beings, too, and most of us want the freedom to make our own decisions, come and go as we want, just like men do.
Nanori · F
I appreciate the gesture as it shows he values me but I certainly don't like to be viewed as something fragile that needs protection.
being · 36-40, F
@Nanori yes I understand. For me it's like, I will always, always appreciate a helping hand. But as long as it isn't extending towards my choices.. and I find this so hard sometimes, to stop receiving, to say thank you I will carry on from here, while it's so comforting to rely on another. But it brings implications.
Rokasu · 36-40, M
As a woman who identifies as another woman's husband's wife who identifies as an paper cut, I believe women
ABCDEF7 · M
It's not just about the physical part, it's also about the soul of being woman. I see the femininity in women is dying, they are tying to be something else. They need to become something else to compete themselves with men. Both need not to compete, both are different in their own way, and both should respect each other the way ideally they should be. There is no need for women to try to do everything that men can do, because women can do many thing that men can't do. That doesn't just make women different from men, but that also makes them superior to men.



That feminine need to be protected in women, and in men too.

For physical protection of beings, everyone needs to be protected. It should not be point of discussion that women need to be protected or not because people think they are physically weak. The point of discussion should be the respect of women, not the protection of women. If that is settled, everything would be ok.

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yes women need to be protected, by legislation and the effective implementation of that, just as you have protective laws for children , minority groups , and any person who is historically marginalised due to the interests of certain groups
@PepsiColaP Remember that when you vote in November. If not..........it will get worse.
graphite · 61-69, M
Protected from what? We protect them from mandatory Selective Service registration (the military draft) - still a male "privilege," only.
being · 36-40, F
@graphite I believe the military training is harming us all and not only those who have to go through it but also those who have to tolerate the anxiety and stress that derives from that training .
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@graphite Atta boy! Chivalry is not dead! LOLOLOLOLOL
Caraxes · 41-45, M
I don’t think women need protecting. When I’m in a relationship (like I am now) I believe in supporting each other, sometimes that means her standing up for me and vice versa however, I never see it as me protecting her.

All the women I have been in a serious relationship with have been strong independent women not sure I would like it any other way. My ex wife needed some extra support at times for sure but then again so did I.
Piper · 61-69, F
Sometimes women need to be protected, just like anyone else would. That age-old idea of protecting the women and children has...does make sense, in many situations. The children for obvious reasons, the women because they have so often been sought and used to satisfy a sexual or 'power' need.

I think anyone who needs protecting should be, by anyone capable and willing. I do not think women need to be, based simply on them being a woman.
gdon39 · 46-50, M
I’m checking in with my thoughts. Anyone who grew up with strong women figures are aware of what the difference between males and females actually are.

Men are physically stronger than women in most cases but males could never reproduce the amazing strength that females do in order to protect their young, exhibit the incredible strength to fight off and protect their offspring.

That’s my answer
Marstar22 · 36-40, F
I can be strong and tough when I need to be but, I really do like having someone who has my back always. There is something to feeling safe and secure with a man but, I have best girl friends who would protect me and get after anybody who messed with me
AnthroKenji · 36-40, M
I find, Theres a need to facilitate a kind of safety both with family, friends, and/or partners.

I don’t go out of my way to make anyone, feel unsafe.

“I feel safe w you” is something I’ve been told by partners and situationships. I guess that’s how I try to live.
uh. I mean, it seems like everyone needs to be protected from something at some point or another; I suspect most are quite capable of protecting themselves in general, a few might want an assist or a little more help.
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
Yes. I'm a woman and I feel the need to be protected. I'm also very protective of my father (male). Humans are social animals. We function in packs. Any lone wolf is a target.
SW-User
It stands to reason that women are weaker than men...but "equality" is equality, and you don't get to have it both ways.
morrgin · F
I think its interesting that men can be drafted into the military, but women are not.
SW-User
The last time a guy said he'd protect me, turns out he was the one I needed protecting from.
It's nice to know a man will help when needed, but that should be a basic human thing.
being · 36-40, F
@SW-User you know what, reading Lacrimagirl's comment and questioning myself whether i am offering the safe space i am referring to, I realize I am not. Long ago, after being taken advantage of, I decided to stop caring much for the other and care for myself instead. I don't know, is it the right way ? To take care of ourselves each and drop the concept of relying onto the other ? Aren't relationships about dependency too, without it being sickening ?
I am confused it seems
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@being I don't think I'll ever quit relying on those I know care and have my best interests at heart. I will know the signs of someone I shouldn't allow to take over and act like I can't help myself at all... and then turns on me.
There's a healthy balance if people keep that in mind.
Mace isn't going to protect you every time, but it can help. Still, sometimes... we still need a hero.
Justenjoyit · 61-69, M
Stay away from me I will just break your heart
Lol
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