how do you help someone not be afraid if you dont understand what they are afraid of?

as an example:

I will get in front of any audience and give a fully improvised 30 minute speech at a moments notice without any preparation (ok.. its a bit of an exaggeration, but not much)
many people wont do that, or will perhaps even be reduced to dribbling stammers if they get put on the spot like that.
I just dont get that, but at least I recognize that I dont understand that fear.
but it also means that I dont think I can help... because 'just do it' (which is what I do) wont work for them

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bijouxbroussard · F

Possibly you don’t understand because you’ve never needed to examine it closely—you just do it. I’ve been shy most of life. In order to perform at recitals, teach, become a training instructor, I had to believe that I was sharing something important that others wanted or needed. That and preparation made it less traumatic.