Wonder where we'd be if lockdown hadn't happened?

@turningthekeys Yeah but when he leaves, all that was his is now hers, what do those younger girls get? Nothing but a wandering eye

@turningthekeys i think the wandering eye happens at all ages. My bf was a massive porn lover and i was only 25 then.

@SW-User 🤭
Well maybe in the US. Laws in different here.

@PaleandPolluted Ugh that wandering eye syndrome gives me the ick. It's like a man can never be committed. But there ARE men out there who give their partners all their attention. Porn (I believe) is different. It's a virtual entity usually utilized by couples as an arousal techniqie/ inspiration for foreplay etc.

Most men would give you all the attention you want but they are the type that you may not find so attractive 🤷.@turningthekeys @PaleandPolluted

@SW-User actually in lockdown I did form attachments to some people i wouldnt normally find attractive, they were exactly the same as the others.

@turningthekeys
Pardon, that was pretty ignorant on my part. By leave I mean death. What happens in that instance the the husband passed on?

@SW-User not really. Attraction is verrrrryyyy subjective, so much so that it can't be used as a marker to generalize anything of the sort.

@PaleandPolluted
Plural? look at all the options you get to form connections with while expecting them to only look your way.

I'm also not certain what you expect of men. They don't suddenly turn blind once they are with you, the difference is they may not have as much opportunity as the other guys you usually like to pursue anything other than just looking.

@SW-User i dont like them clicking like on sexual photos of obvious sex object types. I want more class.

@SW-User oh no worrieeeesss.
I don't know much about laws myself.
It depends entirely on the will of the one passing. If they died unexpectedly and did not leave a will, then 1/3rd goes to the man's siblings, the rest is divided among the offspring and wife. Because of the division, all assets including the house is mostly converted into money in order to exactly match the distribution.
Sometimes a person will leave a family member with power of attorney. But here in South Asia as most marriages are arranged, in laws including spouses are not trusted with this position. So even after decades of being married, spouses rarely have power of attorney. This is also the reason spouses will each try to buy property with their money so that in case of a bitter divorce they have a shelter. And they never ever gift their property to their spouse. Joint account are also extremely unpopular here. It's also the reason abusive men will seize their wive's salaries, because financial freedom would help the women get out of abusive relationships. Seizing salaries and not allowing women to work are like clipping a bird's wings here, commonly used tactics of oppression.

@PaleandPolluted Same. Once I asked on here if it bothers cis-females that their partners look at other women, and the general answer was "boys will be boys". Basically that women should just be happy with what they have. Sounded pretty regressive to me. And sad that most of us just settle for this.....

@turningthekeys Yeah attraction is subjective but there are general characteristics we know work. For instance women prefer tall fit men that do well enough financially etc, 666 as is put by the young boys these days which is 6 inches tall, 6 pack abs, or 6+ inch penis and 6 figure income. Back in my day it was simply tall dark and handsome. Men prefer youth, femininity and beauty.

Now there's nothing wrong with womens preferences, your youth and beauty are your best tools to negotiate for all that you want in a mate (if you live in a culture that allows you to choose your own mate). Once that is gone that's when you run into the problem of feeling invisible because you're ability to attract high value men (or simply the type of man you want and desire) dwindles, and you no longer have the same negotiating power as a result, because now those men are looking at younger women.

@turningthekeys "variety is the spice of life" that always got to me.

@PaleandPolluted
Ok that's reasonable.

@SW-User that's sweet 🙈