Any tips or advise?

Recently I’ve noticed that feeling sad and depressed is a choice, I’ve heard it many times in inspirational quotes, I’ve told myself that many times, I’ve come to realize it before but this time it’s a different depth…if that makes any sense.

I’ve also notied how my mood is dependent on how a certain person in my life feels or acts like, who happens to be a very toxic person, I’ve noticed my instant reaction to her behavior is depression and or anxiety and it’s become a deep seated pattern.
Thing is I don’t know if I should train myself to stay positive which consists of pushing myself a lot and going through a lot of headaches or let my emotions take their time and heal whenever they’re ready. I know feeling that way is counter productive, I’ve been telling myself that it’s only taking its toll on me ....idk idk I’m just very confused rn

Idk how it sounds like to you but it’s been crippling my life so much that even realizing it fked me up :\

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Miram · 31-35, F

I think finding a balance is about having roots, growing them or creating them..it is very different from a person to another. You need something you can return to

Those roots can be acceptance in the Buddhist sense letting feelings pass through you..just living each moment separately..

Or transforming feelings , not actively suppressing them, and learning to play with them through visualization, bringing stronger feelings like love into the front . and other techniques.. transforming them into positive actions...arts, volunteering...anything away from that person's influence which I assume is your mother.

You will sometimes fail other times succeed at detaching from her and her abuse.

Nanori · F

@Miram T___T thank you, you sorted the words in my head

Miram · 31-35, F

@Nanori aww. I believe in you Nanori. You can find some peace away from the hurt they create.