We were both tired and we argue and he pushed a plate full of food hard enough

he continued with that energy pushing things around him so I told him I won't tolerate anything like that in my home and asked him to leave. He left.
I am stressed.
He grew up with a violent father and obviously haven't shaken off him much. I am saddened.
It's in the middle of my exhibition, where I go morning and evening. I meet him at noon and it's not the first time that, instead I get some rest I am getting in arguments with him. I want to cry.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

This is not a good sign. But it IS a sign.

You handled it quite well. But take it from someone who knows, it won't automatically get better. It gets worse.

I feel bad for you both.

being · 36-40, F

@Mamapolo2016 it's okay. I am leaving in a month. An extra reason for him to get frustrated perhaps. Anyways ..I agree with you about signs.

PoetryNEmotion · F

You don't need this violence in your life. You don't deserve it. You don't want a man with a temper like that. He is one short step from hitting you. Do not tolerate this. Please stay away from him. It is not love. It is self-preservation. He can get help. That is his choice. You take excellent care of you, elfafina, and your precious heart.

Quimliqer · 70-79, M

Please for your sake and his, find a behavioural specialist that can help.

being · 36-40, F

@Quimliqer in the past i would frown upon such an advise but now I think I will have a talk with him.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@being Girl, people who grew up around violence tend to turn to violence even if they realize it is wrong. It is a pattern of handling life. And it is quite difficult to break. That is what the policeman told me when I spoke with him. You have learned from this. Please be careful. If you are leaving, his violence can escalate. Be safe.

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

Did you previously not notice any signs that he is violent?

lovelywarpedlemon

careful. sorry you are going through that.

Lilnonames · F

Time for u to change and focus on work. Dont need arguing in your life

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Lilnonames · F

@being sometimes those with tempers hide it well and u dont know it until it comes out with a surprise

being · 36-40, F

@Lilnonames he didn't hide it much though. He told me stories including violence from the past but as I always do, I judge ppl from what I see and feel at the moment. I need to give more attention to what they are saying.

Lilnonames · F

@being yes kinda sounds dangerous good luck i just made it to work

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