Can you tactfully get revenge? It’s costing me around $20,000 in repairs to my Moms house now a...

SledgeHammer · 46-50, M

What is this guy in ..his 70's-80's. .

If you know where he lives now...
Go release about 6 big'ol rats at his house... that will keep him busy for a while

This is an age group in which anyone can inflict such an easy form of vengeance .

PSuss1 · 56-60, M

Do what you need to do but advice from an older guy who lived through something similar but different (lost my Dad's house to my Step-Mums scheming family)? Let it go, these things have a way of backfiring, don't let the POS live rent-free in your head either, remember you're better than him in every single way. 🫂

Pretzel · 61-69, M

with the way the house market is going you could probably sell it as is and find a place to rent until the prices start to get a little more reasonable.

then again - you seem pretty handy with your hands (no that is NOT a sexual comment) - so you can probably do it AND teach your son to work with his hands too - something my dad did and I didn't appreciate until later.

as for the step-daddy - anger and vengence takes so much energy to maintain. If you can do it, just throw his memory on the bonfire and find someone else to give attention to

bowman81 · M

"Revenge is a dish best served cold".
Personally, I think it is a mistake. Work to make the best of what you have, enjoy it while the guy rolls in his own filth. He isn't worth the time nor effort. Fix the house and enjoy it or sell it whatever makes the most sense. Don't waste any more energy being miserable because of him.....it empowers him and I know you don't want that.

SweetMae · 70-79, F

Revenge has a way of backfiring on you and making your situation worse.

VirginMatchmaker · 46-50, M

Can completely understand how you feel. Being vengeful though just leads you down a path you don't want to go and is ultimately detrimental to you. I hope karma comes his way though!

Teslin · M

Wouldn't be wonderful to somehow cause $20K damage to his current residence that he would be responsible to fix. 🤔
Not that I am suggesting you do that 🤷‍♂️

SomeMichGuy · M

Well...don't let this consume you, because, if it *does*, he wins AGAIN.

I guess you have to decide whether $20k is worth it, or if you want to do something else with such money.

SW-User

his name is on the deed?

tallpowerhouseblonde · 36-40, F

Is it in writing that he was supposed to take care of the house?If yes you may be able to stick the repair bill on him for breach of contract.
Best not to damage his current residence you could get arrested and charged.He could be renting his new residence leading to you damaging an innocent person's property.

Jimmy2016 · 61-69, M

🤔.......It sounds like you just need to take care of the house and then move on with your life.........Taking revenge will just consume you......Unless it's legal revenge like taking him to court or suing him over something........

DrawntoaDistance · M

Spell out I ❤️ ANAL in giant letters on his front lawn with grass killer. Do it in the deepest darkest night. Wear a ninja suit. Come back here and tell us how it went 🍿

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

Have you considered suing?

Montanaman · M

ToWanda!!! I Get how you feel! 🤪😔💔