As much as I could dismiss this as the spiteful bellows of someone that's been wallowing in bitterness for a long time, I can't in good conscience disagree with you.
I think there are a number of mitigating factors here, however, that could decouple this from your typical misogynistic rage. For one thing, most people in general just suck. The majority of people are pretty thoughtless, and thoughtlessness at the very minimum creates resentment. It doesn't have to be exclusive to one gender.
The second thing I'll say is that women also face thoughtlessness from men in the form of unwanted advances, sexualization, manipulation, and harassment. They're no physical match for most men, so they create psychological barriers in order to protect themselves from men that seek to use them.
That's probably where the arrogant behaviors you speak of originate from, because they're probably tired of being treated as the solution to someone else's problems instead of being seen as a person with their own set of problems to deal with. Granted, a lot of arrogance is directly born from stupidity. A result of simply not thinking about other people's feelings enough to factor them into our calculations. But it's not a uniquely female trait.
But I'll end on the note that resonates the most with me because I have spent a lot of time resenting women for their apparent neglect and indifference. This disdain for the opposite gender is a common response from those suffering from low self-esteem. We might be hurting inside and long for a loving presence to make us feel adequate, to validate us, to make us feel heard, to help us belong, to give us a sense of importance. And when it doesn't manifest the way we'd like from the people we encounter, it's very easy to dismiss them for not fulfilling our needs. It can feel like a broken promise since they're unwilling to do for us what we might be willing to do for them.
Though like I said, most people are pretty thoughtless. They don't really think or care about how others feel if they don't see any benefit to themselves for caring. Think about ingroups vs. outgroups. How people of similar political or religious beliefs are nicer to each other than those belonging to other affiliations. Or how we're friendlier with people who have similar interests than those who we have little in common with. People are ultimately just concerned about doing what's best for themselves.
When it comes to low self-esteem, the easiest way isn't necessarily the best way. It's easy for codependency to form and to become a leech in somebody else's life. It's more sustainable to work on yourself in order to address feelings of inadequacy rather than expecting others to treat you the way you'd like to be treated. So when it comes to women, if you're a man, you have to be of some benefit to her before she might be willing to let her guard down and share her attention with you.
Sometimes this is purely superficial and being good looking is enough of a benefit, but most other times it comes from being patient, from having a good sense of humor, from showing interest in her life, from caring about her own emotional needs, and from showing that you're also working on yourself so that she doesn't feel like she's doing all the work.
The consequences from a woman being involved with a bad man are usually a lot more severe than the consequences of a man being with a bad woman, so the threshold is a little bit higher for them to put forth the effort than it is for men to do so.
