Ugh.. friend playing house in abusive relationship wants to do couples hang out š«£
SO awkward! I can stay friends and mind my own business, but hard pass on playing nice-nice with a chauvinist abuser, nor does my boyfriend want the responsibility of āfixing himā for you š
āI think your boyfriend would be such a positive influence on mineā
ā-No Donna, he wouldnāt because your boyfriend is in his mid-40s and pretty set in his toxic ways/attitudes. The only thing that will happen is either my boyfriend will be put in the awkward position of dancing around stuff he finds repulsive or having it escalate to a confrontation, which would likely result in her abusive boyfriend not wanting her to hang out with me anymore and bringing to a head yet again the fragility of her circumstances if she defies him.
When I diplomatically explained this to Donna, focusing on maintaining the harmony of our friendship, what does Donna say?
Not, ā Good point, I wouldnāt want to put your partner in a weird situationā
ā Good. I hope someone puts him in his placeā
š Drama seeking, not thinking things through, ever fishing for someone to save her from her own choices behavior. I know itās unconscious, but itās so effing manipulative.
Argghhh.. this is why Donna was demoted to āpublic spacesā friend.
āI think your boyfriend would be such a positive influence on mineā
ā-No Donna, he wouldnāt because your boyfriend is in his mid-40s and pretty set in his toxic ways/attitudes. The only thing that will happen is either my boyfriend will be put in the awkward position of dancing around stuff he finds repulsive or having it escalate to a confrontation, which would likely result in her abusive boyfriend not wanting her to hang out with me anymore and bringing to a head yet again the fragility of her circumstances if she defies him.
When I diplomatically explained this to Donna, focusing on maintaining the harmony of our friendship, what does Donna say?
Not, ā Good point, I wouldnāt want to put your partner in a weird situationā
ā Good. I hope someone puts him in his placeā
š Drama seeking, not thinking things through, ever fishing for someone to save her from her own choices behavior. I know itās unconscious, but itās so effing manipulative.
Argghhh.. this is why Donna was demoted to āpublic spacesā friend.
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