Ugh.. friend playing house in abusive relationship wants to do couples hang out 🫣

SO awkward! I can stay friends and mind my own business, but hard pass on playing nice-nice with a chauvinist abuser, nor does my boyfriend want the responsibility of ‘fixing him’ for you 😑

‘I think your boyfriend would be such a positive influence on mine‘
—-No Donna, he wouldn’t because your boyfriend is in his mid-40s and pretty set in his toxic ways/attitudes. The only thing that will happen is either my boyfriend will be put in the awkward position of dancing around stuff he finds repulsive or having it escalate to a confrontation, which would likely result in her abusive boyfriend not wanting her to hang out with me anymore and bringing to a head yet again the fragility of her circumstances if she defies him.

When I diplomatically explained this to Donna, focusing on maintaining the harmony of our friendship, what does Donna say?
Not, “ Good point, I wouldn’t want to put your partner in a weird situation”

“ Good. I hope someone puts him in his place“

😑 Drama seeking, not thinking things through, ever fishing for someone to save her from her own choices behavior. I know it’s unconscious, but it’s so effing manipulative.
Argghhh.. this is why Donna was demoted to ‘public spaces’ friend.