If you knew with absolute certainty that you would spend the rest of your life without a romantic partner,

what kind of changes would you make to your life?

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I already mostly am.
I’ve always believed I’d end up spending my without.
Unfortunately.
I think some of us are only meant to give love but to never receive it.

TinyViolins · 31-35, M

@NewBeginnings7790 The older I get, the more that suspicion is becoming a reality. It can be relieving to give up hope and accept the way things are, but loneliness and solitude have its own set of complications that eventually overshadow any benefits from acceptance.

You're doomed if you try and doomed if you don't. I haven't quite found the right recipe for learning to be okay with that

NewBeginnings7790 · 41-45, F

@TinyViolins I haven’t either, an you’re right the loneliness and solitude can be really tough. I wish this wasn’t it for me. I’ve always wanted so much more. It just doesn’t feel like living.

TinyViolins · 31-35, M

@NewBeginnings7790 I wish I didn't agree, but you nailed it. Feels like you're only getting to know a fraction of the human experience. It's like having YouTube when everybody else has Netflix and Disney+

Anyways, it's a depressing topic. It'd be nice to have something to look forward to. How about if we're both still single in 10 years, you wanna just roll the dice and get married?

I can cook, clean, and teach you Spanish. I have a decent-sized book collection you can rummage through if you want, and there'll always be ice cream in the freezer. Plus, you can keep everything in the eventual divorce as long as I get the dogs. What'dya say? I'm marginally better than dying alone, right?