If you knew with absolute certainty that you would spend the rest of your life without a romantic partner,
what kind of changes would you make to your life?
31-35, M
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TinyViolins · 31-35, M
@RebelFox What type of stuff do you do to make the most of your solitude?
RebelFox · 36-40, F
@TinyViolins mostly taking the time to get outside, move around and think deeply about what I want to do with this life. Check in with all my feelings. Writing and art are important to me. Thinking about my son and trying to keep up with his growth. That’s about all I have time for. I’m setting my son and I up for some way of life, it will be unique, fun and healthy I hope. I am such a mess. I could use a constant in my life to balance out but it’s not coming. No one is coming. I have a lot to accomplish on my own, better to rely on myself anyway.
TinyViolins · 31-35, M
@RebelFox Those things are pretty important to me too. I don't have any children, but I have two dogs that are the only family I have, so their health and development matter just as much to me. It helps me stay active and enjoy nature walks.
Writing, painting, and poetry help me express the thoughts and feelings too deep and nuanced for them to understand, and that balance between the mind, body, and soul help make the void of loneliness much easier to bear. All we can truly depend on in the end is ourselves.
But I wouldn't rule out love for yourself yet. You're a nurturer at heart, and in a world where so many are lost, that part of yourself can open doors people may not be able to open themselves. Uncertainty is troubling, so it can be soothing to invent certainty by saying no one will ever come, but it's just a coping mechanism our heart creates to protect ourselves from the pain of solitude.
You're a good soul. Some things just take time for people to really appreciate. I remember when computers, the internet, and superheroes were something only for nerds and losers, now it's mainstream and everybody can enjoy the benefits of geeking out. Most people don't appreciate emotional depth right now, but as mental health starts to become mainstream, your ability to maneuver through the complexity of the heart is going to be a shining beacon for many.
Writing, painting, and poetry help me express the thoughts and feelings too deep and nuanced for them to understand, and that balance between the mind, body, and soul help make the void of loneliness much easier to bear. All we can truly depend on in the end is ourselves.
But I wouldn't rule out love for yourself yet. You're a nurturer at heart, and in a world where so many are lost, that part of yourself can open doors people may not be able to open themselves. Uncertainty is troubling, so it can be soothing to invent certainty by saying no one will ever come, but it's just a coping mechanism our heart creates to protect ourselves from the pain of solitude.
You're a good soul. Some things just take time for people to really appreciate. I remember when computers, the internet, and superheroes were something only for nerds and losers, now it's mainstream and everybody can enjoy the benefits of geeking out. Most people don't appreciate emotional depth right now, but as mental health starts to become mainstream, your ability to maneuver through the complexity of the heart is going to be a shining beacon for many.
TinyViolins · 31-35, M
@RebelFox Aww, thanks. I guess that makes two of us