Learning how to blink at problems that are not mine to fix, so paradoxically I can be a better friend

This challenging friendship is certainly teaching me a lot. Heh

It’s hard for me to not go into helper mode when I see a fire or disaster in the making. With this friend I can’t do that though.
Their choices lead to a lot of fires heh🫢🫣
I’m finding that not attempting to help or be hooked into helping will probably make me a better friend to them. When knowing them becomes a burden I start to get silently judgmental and frustrated.

Friendship + judgmental= bad news bears..

Plus, I don’t like feeling judgmental. It feels gross throughout my body. 🤷🏻‍♀️

So I’m learning how to listen, empathize with the moment, and neutrally accept they are going to do what they are gonna do.. heh.
and… I am not going to get reeled into the impending drama, fixing their problems or supplying them attention.

That has also been an interesting fine line for me to explore:
how to offer someone empathy while also not getting sucked into the vortex of attention seeking?’