Daughter coming out.

Not sure where to ask this question But I’ve recently found out that my daughter has a gf. I’m fine with this but I feel she’s worried to tell me. Should I approach the subject or wait until she’s ready to tell me? None of us are big talkers but I thought she would be able to tell me.she’s at uni so don’t see her often . If she does tell me what should I say without getting things wrong. She mentioned years ago she wasn’t sure if she felt was a boy or girl and this was after days of acting weird and I was worried something had happened or she was Ill or pregnant so when she did tell me I was thankful it wasn’t anything like that and played it down but that got her angry and said I’d made her feel like what she was going through didn’t matter but I was trying to say it’s fine. I really don’t want to get this wrong. Any advice ?

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Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

My initial thought is to say wait for her to come to you but at the same time you don’t want her struggling with worry about telling you. You could make up a story (if you don’t have a true one to tell) (because that’s what us parents do lol) about a friend whose child came out and your friend was 100% supportive and slip in something like you would be completely accepting of your child as well.

BananaBrown · 41-45, F

That’s a tough one. I waited for my son to come out, and I’m glad he told me when he was ready, but we’ve always been very close so I wasn’t overly concerned about it. If you think you’d be easing a burden by approaching her, then maybe that’s best. I feel in these situations there is no exact right answer. I’d suggest following your heart. Good luck 🍀

Ducky · 31-35, F

Wait for her to come out to you. That's good that you don't have a problem with it and I'm sure you want her to know that, but coming out can be a very sensitive topic. Especially if one isn't comfortable with opening up about their sexuality yet. Just don't take it as anything against you. Maybe she just has her own reasons for not being ready to come out and her insecurities have nothing to do with you. When the time comes, just show her you support her and I'm sure she'll be overjoyed.

Imsleepy · 31-35

I would wait until she is ready.

HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F

Maybe ask her if there's anybody in her life as a romantic interest. I guess it matters where you learned it from too, because if she hasn't told you then she might find it weird that you know. Just approach her with good intentions and respect her if she doesn't want to open up yet.

TexChik · F

Tell her you dont care who she likes, just as long as she is happy and you hope that she will trust you enough to include you in her life.

ButterRobot · 51-55, M

Wait for her to do it in her own time.

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