If you messed up a potential relationship with someone you really loved and now they are in a new relationship do you tell them you are sorry for what

For me personally I wouldn’t. I think some people have the best intentions when reaching back out and some don’t of course, but I feel like it would just reopen old wounds for some people. And, I say that because a lot of people feel as if they can get “closure” from the person who hurt them and I just don’t think that’s how closure really works. I think closure is something you get from yourself. I also think you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself. I don’t know the situation obviously, but we’ve all cause pain in the process of discovering ourselves. It’s kind of how life goes even if you’re doing your best to not cause harm to anyone in your life it still happens because a lot of the time discovering who you are comes from lessons learned or from experience which a lot of the time results in pain.

Depending on how this person is and how hurt they are going back to explain why you hurt them whether it was intentional or not doesn’t take away the pain or lessen it. It doesn’t erase what was already done and just consider this that just because you caused pain towards someone you care about doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or you deserve hate. It just means that you’re human and it’s to be expected.

[i][c=BF0080]If it’s just an apology, I don’t see it hurting. [/c][/i]

Life is not a movie.

If we actually care only about them , we can just let them be.

Trying to explain yourself is not for them , it's for our own satisfaction which might bring us more pain if they don't care for it or even being pain to them if they care.

I personally beleive - Just let it go.

Move on

You can apologize and take personal responsibility, but it would be wise to not undo the apology by pointing the finger back at them as the cause for your actions. That will just stir up drama. If you feel like you want to explain away your own behavior then I would leave it be because that’s just wanting closure for yourself. That kind of apology isn’t for their sake.

You feeling bad is more about you than it is about them

🤔 yes just apologise for you mistake and take the blame for why it ended and then move on forward from that [creep]

It it was meant to be it is sadly we love, live, we lost, let go, most of all learn and move on. Sorry helps both.

Nope

I would just apologize and move forward