FFS.. I gotta cut ties from this friend

I don’t think I can do this. She’s super sweet, but also habitually self-destructive and constantly in crisis mode, ever debilitated by something that apparently makes it impossible for her to be proactive except by dumping her sob story on anyone who will listen to manipulate them into rescuing her. It’s exhausting to have to have so many boundaries with this person and to feel guilty for it like today when I was very gentle about it all, but the mere mention of them getting a counselor for additional support got me hung up on. I don’t need this stress. I intentionally pruned out all the people in my life who had a ‘lay down and die’ default coping mechanism.

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MaLuna87MagiaLuna · 36-40, F

I left every single ties with such a person who is a female cousin, because when she is next to me or in a close contact with me, I get every single toxic guy contacting me and plan to destroy me for her, and I also have broken my ties with guys that know her and her family and they know my aunt (her mother) because I once saw a nightmare that if I spoke the truth about what she and her sister have done to me in the year 2000, I will be hated and called the one who loves to act as the victim.
I am glad I don’t have any close contact with her, and if I ever traveled back to the country she lives in with her family in UAE and visited the places of my childhood and memories of my teen years and all of the places with the one person who cares about me, it will be only when I wanna introduce my man to my aunt and her family and be the one bringing suitors in their lives to keep them away from getting jealous of me, so I can live peacefully with the people who care about me.