FFS.. I gotta cut ties from this friend

I don’t think I can do this. She’s super sweet, but also habitually self-destructive and constantly in crisis mode, ever debilitated by something that apparently makes it impossible for her to be proactive except by dumping her sob story on anyone who will listen to manipulate them into rescuing her. It’s exhausting to have to have so many boundaries with this person and to feel guilty for it like today when I was very gentle about it all, but the mere mention of them getting a counselor for additional support got me hung up on. I don’t need this stress. I intentionally pruned out all the people in my life who had a ‘lay down and die’ default coping mechanism.

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Vivaci

Same here…they’re energy vampires. And that’s a term that made it to the dictionary. Imagine we’re not alone then.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

Yeah, that’s really what it comes down to unfortunately. I wish I could say that this is just a rough patch for them, but they’re always in a effing rough patch of their own making heh .. I remember feeling this way before when we were younger only I didn’t have the boundaries I do now. I thought I could be friends with them again because they’re very kind and sweet, I don’t think it’s good for me to stay friends with someone who I feel drained by whenever we hang out 😕 @Vivaci

Vivaci

@WhateverWorks I’ve written about such friends in the past, so believe me, I know exactly what you mean. I feel sorry for their kids n family who have to live with them 24*7. Must be so exhausting constantly cheering up these negative attention seekers. 🙄