FFS.. I gotta cut ties from this friend

I don’t think I can do this. She’s super sweet, but also habitually self-destructive and constantly in crisis mode, ever debilitated by something that apparently makes it impossible for her to be proactive except by dumping her sob story on anyone who will listen to manipulate them into rescuing her. It’s exhausting to have to have so many boundaries with this person and to feel guilty for it like today when I was very gentle about it all, but the mere mention of them getting a counselor for additional support got me hung up on. I don’t need this stress. I intentionally pruned out all the people in my life who had a ‘lay down and die’ default coping mechanism.

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SW-User

same i got tired of playing bob the builder to these ppl who are always complaining and repeating their victim woe is me nonsense, if you don't get away they will drag you to their level

WhateverWorks · 36-40

Yeah, that’s where the feeling guilty keeps coming in. They keep fishing with the sob story without actually asking for what they want, which is a place to stay indefinitely and a ton of money. All I have offered is emotional support without enabling the sob story and constructive suggestions on how to possibly solve the problems, but I can’t let her stay at my place, I’m not giving her my savings, and I’m not going hop on Google< Craigslist etc., things she knows how to do and is more than capable of doing, but just doesn’t feel like it and hope someone else will handle for her.. I’m not going to get reeled into all that again.. I can’t control the other people in her life, but I refuse to be an enabler. @SW-User

Monday · F

@WhateverWorks Good for you!

WhateverWorks · 36-40

I’m trying lol @Monday