FFS.. I gotta cut ties from this friend

I don’t think I can do this. She’s super sweet, but also habitually self-destructive and constantly in crisis mode, ever debilitated by something that apparently makes it impossible for her to be proactive except by dumping her sob story on anyone who will listen to manipulate them into rescuing her. It’s exhausting to have to have so many boundaries with this person and to feel guilty for it like today when I was very gentle about it all, but the mere mention of them getting a counselor for additional support got me hung up on. I don’t need this stress. I intentionally pruned out all the people in my life who had a ‘lay down and die’ default coping mechanism.

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Nanori · F

Damn I have a very similar friend who's in the same cycle, it's been impossible to cut all ties with her as she keeps coming back even tho I've made it very clear that I don't want anything to do with her : |

WhateverWorks · 36-40

We parted ways for a few years. When she initially came back around she presented herself falsely as finally getting her life and self stable. We start hanging out with her again, which went fine for a while until the reality of what was going on finally started popping up with daily crisis phone calls/texts, choosing escapism and avoidance instead of being proactive about changing the situation, and being on the brink of tears whenever we got together. I don’t know. It’s not my life. I can be her friend without judgment. The problem is how, maybe unconsciously, emotionally manipulative she is @Nanori