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Budwick · 70-79, M
After reading some of your responses to others, I was able to learn more about your situation.
No one can change the past.
What has happened, has happened.
It seems that you have expected others to swoop in and fix things for you.
First step - toss that expectation.
Even if you had bunches of interested and loving people around you,
YOU are responsible for your own happiness.
Sorry if that sounds cold - not meant to be - just true.
So, step back and take stock of yourself.
What is important to you?
What do you like to do?
What would you like to accomplish?
Stuff like that.
Take responsibility for yourself and your comfort and happiness
And start getting what is important, do what you like to do, and set goals for your future.
It's not something you can do in a weekend.
But seriously, you can make big strides in a season.
Good luck
No one can change the past.
What has happened, has happened.
It seems that you have expected others to swoop in and fix things for you.
First step - toss that expectation.
Even if you had bunches of interested and loving people around you,
YOU are responsible for your own happiness.
Sorry if that sounds cold - not meant to be - just true.
So, step back and take stock of yourself.
What is important to you?
What do you like to do?
What would you like to accomplish?
Stuff like that.
Take responsibility for yourself and your comfort and happiness
And start getting what is important, do what you like to do, and set goals for your future.
It's not something you can do in a weekend.
But seriously, you can make big strides in a season.
Good luck
@Budwick There is no one that cares about me, my haters made sure of it. i did not expect anyone to swoop in and i have not implied anything like that. i expected that the people i was engaged to ..to realize that i was nothing like the person that they were told i was. i expected them to not be people that were literally getting paid money to screw my life up. i expected my friends to not lie about me from the day we met. I expected not to be raped and molested and lied about my entire life. i expected my employers to see how hard of a worker i was and promote me and respect me.
Budwick · 70-79, M
@DIABLISS [quote].i mean, i expect sane and sincere answers from people here and look at what you wrote?[/quote]
Sane and sincere is what I gave.
If you're looking for people to join a pity party - then I'll just quietly leave.
If you are looking for a happier, healthier future - pay attention to what I said.
Sane and sincere is what I gave.
If you're looking for people to join a pity party - then I'll just quietly leave.
If you are looking for a happier, healthier future - pay attention to what I said.
@Budwick you are a horrible person. i don't want pity...i want answers. people like you who spout off nonsense to others as if in my situation i could control anything. i have re-invented myself a million times and they just keep coming after me and they have control over the law enforcement in this area so i have no way to fix anything. i even moved from OHIO to NY decades ago and they followed me there. i was nearly murdered and was made to miscarry.
Budwick · 70-79, M
@DIABLISS [quote]...i want answers.[/quote]
I gave you answers.
Realistic answers.
Answers you could be implementing today.
But, you keep doing you.
Continue to live in fear and uncertainty.
I will be the next one that leaves you to wallow in your self pity.
I won't be responding further.
I gave you answers.
Realistic answers.
Answers you could be implementing today.
But, you keep doing you.
Continue to live in fear and uncertainty.
I will be the next one that leaves you to wallow in your self pity.
I won't be responding further.
Budwick · 70-79, M
@DIABLISS Nope, no cult.
Just a functioning member of society.
PS - It doesn't matter whose fault your situation is.
What matters is that it is and always will be your responsibility to take care of your own happiness.
Counting on others to do it will ALWAYS lead to unhappiness.
Interesting that you judge the most kind comment here as insensitive.
I hope you find your way someday.
Just a functioning member of society.
PS - It doesn't matter whose fault your situation is.
What matters is that it is and always will be your responsibility to take care of your own happiness.
Counting on others to do it will ALWAYS lead to unhappiness.
Interesting that you judge the most kind comment here as insensitive.
I hope you find your way someday.
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Budwick · 70-79, M
@DIABLISS [quote]same answer as before...and it does matter whose fault it is and who started it is always important. [/quote]
OK - you want to dwell on what or who put you where you are?
How long do you want to do that?
If you're really in your 60's. you've been doing that for over 50 years now.
And you expect that if you continue, that somehow the results will change?
You claim to be a lovely person.
I got new for you Lily, listening to you whine and complain does not appear lovely to me.
It appear pathetic.
Be thankful that you are alive.
Grab the reins of your life and take control.
OK - you want to dwell on what or who put you where you are?
How long do you want to do that?
If you're really in your 60's. you've been doing that for over 50 years now.
And you expect that if you continue, that somehow the results will change?
You claim to be a lovely person.
I got new for you Lily, listening to you whine and complain does not appear lovely to me.
It appear pathetic.
Be thankful that you are alive.
Grab the reins of your life and take control.
@Budwick you have no humanity. i haven't whined or anything else that you have said that i did. you just don't want to acknowledge that there are people like me, that through no fault of their own got destroyed by other people because of jealousy and their own need to destroy and kill and maim others. what this means is that you are exactly like them and shouldn't even be on this thread. you came her to drive someone away or to feel badly for themselves. i feel sorry for the people in your life that can't count on you for anything but humiliation and badgering
@Budwick i re-read everything that you wrote here and there is no possible way for me to believe that you are even a human being. you don't listen …you don't respond like a human and you don't ever need to communicate with a brilliant kind hard working beautiful human being like my self. i almost feel sorry for you.