I can only manage the ability to be in the company of a unique individual. Someone who vibes on the same frequency and truly understands me. I guess that's why I better connect with those online. Well some people, that is. Otherwise, leave me alone & let me be happy...
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I like to say I enjoy solitude, but not loneliness. Almost all social interaction is costly for me, even the good interactions. I find that the only way for me to really recharge is to borderline isolate myself. There is a balance in-between there but it is hard to find, and being like this does complicate some things.
@PirateMonkeyCabinet THIS is so me, it's uncanny. It's hard explaining it & difficult finding that balance to. I have to isolate and push my mind into stoic mode a lot, for this reason and for times my mind won't shut down (it doesn't otherwise) I'm an extremely complicated person all together; on all levels. It's tiresome. My empathy goes to you.💙
Reach out if you need to, but if you're anything like me, your inbox probably makes you nervous. I hate that I have to let my friends down, but my circle is really small and they understand me by now.
@ML2022 I absolutely get that, and likewise, my empathy goes to you.
I am glad you have a circle of people around you (be it physical connections or just people here) that understand, respect and accept that this is how things are for you and how you need to deal with it. Far from everyone does. It's great when someone is understanding when you go silent for a longer time. Even if it's been a while they know that you haven't forgotten them, and you know they haven't forgotten you.
I don't know what challenges you face in your life, but I imagine the need for that alone time has been like a multiplier on top of that. I'm sure there are many things I could have picked as examples from my own situation, but when you say you have a really small circle it resonated with me. Don't know if your "motivations" (for lack of a better word) are the same, but just the complication of having to be extremely picky about who I surround myself with leading to that small circle. Not for lack of wanting to have more people in my life, but because there isn't enough social energy to go around.
Hopefully you've found some who not only are understanding, but who know you well enough to often help pull you out if or when you go too far into that isolation mode. That alone can make such a difference.
Very much appreciate the offer and extend the same one to you. 😊
