What's the deal with younger men claiming older women (60+) can be attractive?

Is it an attempt at flattery?
Is it currying favour for something else, like getting free editing on a poem or story?

The thing is, when it happens (rare) it's incongruent. There are no other signs or signals of attraction.

If it is true, what is it that they find attractive?

If it's not, why would they bother to insist on it?

Is it a misguided attempt to be "kind" - as if looks were the only basis for self esteem or confidence?

Is it just plain stupid - no reason at all?

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Platinum · M

There are so many women over 60 that are beautiful, but usually young men want them for their experience....

hartfire

@Platinum Usually?

Platinum · M

I'm not a young man so I'm guessing.....@hartfire

hartfire

@Platinum Thanks for the guess. Guessing can often be a great way to explore a possible answer.
If young men do sometimes go for women old enough to be their grandmothers I think it must be very rare indeed.

The thing is, all the evidence pointed to the remarks being insincere - so what I'm trying to figure is the motive.

Platinum · M

When I was younger I fancied older women , no ulterior motives I was attracted to them@hartfire

hartfire

@Platinum What did you fancy about them? DId you ever have a relationship with one? If so, what were the pro's and con's? And did it change the way you view older women?

Platinum · M

@hartfire probably thought they were great at sex....when I was 24 I went out with a beautiful women aged around 40

Elevatorpitches · F

@Platinum No they don't They want them for their crotch.

Platinum · M

@Elevatorpitches some maybe and some not...

Elevatorpitches · F

@Platinum As someone who has dated a hundred younger men in the last 15 years, the minute the woman does not to discuss/get ready for/have sex he is GONE

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@Platinum i get hit on online by younger guys all the time.
Often they are of the opinion us older gals are sexually experienced and could 'teach them a thing or two'. I disapoint by telling them thats not the case where im concerned. Im of the opinion most women half my age have a much more varied sexlife than me....so...if thats what they seek, im dont fit the bill.
But, I can also tell you most of my good friends online are younger men. Some of them actually like someone to talk to and who will listen to them. Like a daft old aunt. Lol.

Platinum · M

@Elevatorpitches perhaps you are just unlucky...lol

Elevatorpitches · F

@RubySoo That stuff is really hard too

They know you want someone but not THEM

That creates some awkward false politeness that always fails in my case...

Elevatorpitches · F

@Platinum I'm unlucky too

Bet nobody here wants to change that though.

So can we talk abut something a little less PAINFUL?

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@Elevatorpitches they know i wabt someone...but not them??
Im married. Im up front about that always and im not interested in any type of sex chat with anyone.