What's the deal with younger men claiming older women (60+) can be attractive?

Is it an attempt at flattery?
Is it currying favour for something else, like getting free editing on a poem or story?

The thing is, when it happens (rare) it's incongruent. There are no other signs or signals of attraction.

If it is true, what is it that they find attractive?

If it's not, why would they bother to insist on it?

Is it a misguided attempt to be "kind" - as if looks were the only basis for self esteem or confidence?

Is it just plain stupid - no reason at all?

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nedkelly · 61-69, M

So, are you saying all ladies past 60 are ugly and time to put them out to pasture

hartfire · 61-69

@nedkelly Nope. I just cannot accept that a younger man could find an older woman attractive when there are so many woman his own age or younger.
There's never any lack of 70-80 year olds trying to flirt - and that's understandable. They are usually lonely and not seriously horny anyway.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@hartfire theres a big difference in finding someone attractive and wanting a relationship with them. Heck, think of many older actors that are most definitely very beautiful/ attractive and we can appreciate that they are still gorgeous.....surely you get that?
That does not mean however you'd want to be in a relationship with them.
I think your point here is more 'why would a younger guy want a relationship with an older woman' and has nothing to do with how she looks.
Heck....if ya fancy someone.... its chemistry.... not choice...lol.