Living to long can be a burden

We visit an aged care home regularly to visit people that don’t get visitors. I have been talking to a lady who is 97. She never seems to be very happy even though she’s in great health for her age. She said to me today “I’ve been here way to long” I asked her what she meant and she said “I’ve outlived my siblings, husband and children, I hope today is my last day. I didn’t know what to say, I just sat there. Can’t even hold her hand because of the glass window between us. I’ve never felt so useless in my life. I don’t know what to say next time I visit her, it’s so so sad 😕😢

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SW-User

I’ve never thought that old age was going to be much fun....

ChloeYoung · 18-21, F

@SW-User I suppose it makes all the difference if you have someone to share it with.

SW-User

That’s the trouble though. The older we get , the less chance of that happening 🤷‍♂️@ChloeYoung

ChloeYoung · 18-21, F

@SW-User I got the impression by your first comment that you were happy, well at least I hope so anyway

SW-User

I’m still fit and active. I’m only 63 which may seem old to you but you won’t think it is so much when you get there.lol. 80s and more is when it gets really hard I would think...@ChloeYoung

ChloeYoung · 18-21, F

@SW-User Yup I can’t imagine being 63 little own being in my 80s. I’m yet to finish school and start my working life. It’s good to hear you’re still fit and active

SW-User

No at your age 63 seems ancient but to me it’s not as bad as I thought it would be. Looking on the bright side, perhaps 83 won’t be so bad 🤷‍♂️ I think that a lot depends in how healthy we manage to stay. Good to talk to you xx@ChloeYoung