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So Why Does it Hurt?

As I spend most holidays alone, and forget it is even a holiday, why do I feel so hurt when my oldest child says they are leaving town for a week to spend Thanksgiving at some other place, in another state? It’s not like we’d planned anything here together. I didn’t realize until yesterday that it was Thanksgiving this coming week.

Maybe it’s because my oldest is my only relative in this city, this state, and this country, and I was already feeling sad missing those I’ve lost from my life...husband, pets, etc; and there has been some anniversaries in the past few days with memories of holidays in times past. I have no friends in this city and state, so I’ll be completely alone. Maybe it’s all the above.
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akindheart · 61-69, F
Carissimi and Ravenwind, i am inthe same boat. i am alone too and missing my daughter. my whole life changed when she passed away. my son is in europe but he would rather spend it anywhere but here
akindheart · 61-69, F
@ravenwind43 back at you. i understand, i truly do.
Carissimi · F
@akindheart Oh, akindheart, this is indeed a day of sadness. I also didn’t know of your loss, as I didn’t know of Raven’s. What brave ladies you are. It is the greatest tragedy to lose a child. My heart goes out to you both filled with loving hugs and comfort. I am in awe of your courage. 🙏 😢
akindheart · 61-69, F
@Carissimi thank you for your kindness!
Deepbreath · 46-50, M
It hurts because the pain is far greater than what you can cope or handle with. Be kind to yourself, be gentle, be warm, the pain will hurt less. Time is a great healer.

I am sorry too.
Carissimi · F
@Deepbreath Thank you. I’ve been here before, and surprisingly, the holiday itself has never been as bad as the run up to it. I usually buy something special to eat, and maybe I’ll go see a movie.
Deepbreath · 46-50, M
@Carissimi Always a good film helps. Best cure around, then grab something to eat as well. Make the day out of it. 😊
SweetMae · 70-79, F
That must be so difficult.
Carissimi · F
@SweetMae True.
SweetMae · 70-79, F
@Carissimi 🤗🤗
Carissimi · F
@SweetMae 🤗🤗😊
Peapod · 61-69, F
I'm sorry. That is really is hard when you want to spend a holiday with someone and you can't. Losing your husband and your pets is no small thing.🥺

Someone told me that one year when they were facing a holiday alone, they volunteered in homeless shelter to have somewhere to go. They said they ended up really enjoying the experience. It's not for everyone of course.

I hope you can find something to give the day some meaning and to take away a little of the sadness. The holidays are hard on a lot of people.
SW-User
I'm sorry. 😔
SW-User
@Carissimi you're welcome. Here's a hug if you need it🤗
Carissimi · F
@SW-User Thank you so much. I do need it. Hug back. 🤗
SW-User
@Carissimi you're so welcome. And thank you for the hug.
ravenwind43 · 51-55, F
I relate somewhat,.except I have lost joy in the holidays since my son passed away. My heart is not in it. I wish I could be alone and not see anyone but I don't want to leave my mom alone. I sorry you will be alone....the worst time for that is the holidays ((hug))
Carissimi · F
@ravenwind43 Count me as one who is here for you should you need a friend to talk with.
ravenwind43 · 51-55, F
@Carissimi That means a lot and the same goes for you as well🙂
Carissimi · F
@ravenwind43 Thank you, Raven.
SmartKat · 61-69, F
One thing I hate about life is that it’s so full of losses.
TexChik · F
Aww.☹️. Im sorry sweetie ... have you considered that maybe your depression is not the funnest thing to spend a holiday with? And you don’t even realize you are doing it . Just saying. Hugs !

 
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