Ugly girls have it easy?

I don't mean ugly offensively- whilst I do believe that beauty can be subjective in off chances, I think there's a general concensus on what's considered beautiful, such as the golden ratio. Pretty girls get attention from men more, generally speaking. But the men who approach pretty women are much more likely to be confident. You can obviously get confident nice guys- but I think generally decent guys who aren't big headed will be hesitant to go up to a girl due to feeling intimidated etc. I feel like the types of guys who make a move on a pretty girl are only looking to get it on. This may be due to the stereotype that pretty girls 'don't have a personality' (i can't count the amount of movies where the pretty girl is either mean or seductive). Looks don't determine your personality. Beauty means nothing. The media wants to constantly tell girls they need to look good, that they're worth more if they're pretty, because the beauty industry wouldn't survive otherwise. How can you know if a guy genuinely likes you (love), or if he likes you for your looks (lust)? Looks fade, and surely to be loved for your mind is what bonds you and a partner together, even when you're old and grey. It kinda bugs me when someone's like 'wow, you're more than just a pretty face' or 'you're different/special' because it really confirms how powerful stereotypes about pretty women are, and it's hard to trust people this way, because they act shocked that you have a brain, like they only talked to you for the purpose of your looks because they thought that's all you had to offer. Sorry for the ranting, just thought about this and wanted to get it out 😂 so 'ugly' girls you shouldn't ever feel bad about your looks- you'll have a deep intimate connection with someone who really likes you and when he falls in love with your mind you'll become pretty in his eyes😊

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SW-User

well to be honest. ive always thought pretty girls were shallow they were brought up on having so much attention and lets face it. if youre attractive you are looking for physical attraction. everyone does that. to me if youre more attractive youre going to get what you want. theres more doors open to you, more opportunities. both have hardships you get more douchebags if you are pretty more guys trying to seek your attention, a lot of the wrong guys trying to get your attention. more likely to get stalked. then you have the stereotypes like she must be a whore or unintelligent. the ugly girls arent going to get what they want as they dont get to choose or get the attention that someone more physically attractive have not as many doors will be open to them. but you know what if someone truly loved someone its not physical its the emotional its the similarities or differences or personality that they like.

youprobablydontknowme · 26-30, F

I dont think getting attention from others makes you a shallow person. That's their act and doesn't determine your personality. I don't use Instagram, facebook etc because I don't care that much about whether people find me attractive. It's disheartening that decent guys avoid girls because they believe they're shallow without even knowing them. Agreed on the end:)

SW-User

yeah its just a perception. because one who has looks must only be out for looks. theres also the whole attention whore thing if you are pretty.

youprobablydontknowme · 26-30, F

Not true at all, I don't see the logic in that. i think that's because pretty girls have the most popular social media accounts so that's all we see, but there's the same amount of ugly girls posing for the camera but no one sees it because their following isn't big

SW-User

idk i see more of the prettier ones who seem to be more narcissistic. or in more sexy poses. yeah part we dont see the less attractive women doing as much ive known average women who dont post as much because they dont like what they look like. its just when you are more comfortable about yourself youll do those kind of things.

youprobablydontknowme · 26-30, F

I disagree. I think when you're less comfortable with yourself you'll look for attention. If you felt comfortable with yourself, why would you want reassurance in the form of likes that you're pretty.

SW-User

because people like to seek attention. my beautiful cousins do it all the time. some less comfortable girls might do it to try to get attention but a lot dont they become introverts not attention seeking.