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Ugly girls have it easy?

I don't mean ugly offensively- whilst I do believe that beauty can be subjective in off chances, I think there's a general concensus on what's considered beautiful, such as the golden ratio. Pretty girls get attention from men more, generally speaking. But the men who approach pretty women are much more likely to be confident. You can obviously get confident nice guys- but I think generally decent guys who aren't big headed will be hesitant to go up to a girl due to feeling intimidated etc. I feel like the types of guys who make a move on a pretty girl are only looking to get it on. This may be due to the stereotype that pretty girls 'don't have a personality' (i can't count the amount of movies where the pretty girl is either mean or seductive). Looks don't determine your personality. Beauty means nothing. The media wants to constantly tell girls they need to look good, that they're worth more if they're pretty, because the beauty industry wouldn't survive otherwise. How can you know if a guy genuinely likes you (love), or if he likes you for your looks (lust)? Looks fade, and surely to be loved for your mind is what bonds you and a partner together, even when you're old and grey. It kinda bugs me when someone's like 'wow, you're more than just a pretty face' or 'you're different/special' because it really confirms how powerful stereotypes about pretty women are, and it's hard to trust people this way, because they act shocked that you have a brain, like they only talked to you for the purpose of your looks because they thought that's all you had to offer. Sorry for the ranting, just thought about this and wanted to get it out 馃槀 so 'ugly' girls you shouldn't ever feel bad about your looks- you'll have a deep intimate connection with someone who really likes you and when he falls in love with your mind you'll become pretty in his eyes馃槉
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Myzery41-45, F
So, how do I have it easier, exactly? 馃
Someone may prefer my brain to my face someday, but as it is I am 35 and haven't been on a date yet. 馃槀

But also, you wouldn't believe how nasty people can be to you simply because they believe that ugly women have no value at all.
There are way more of them than you might think.
youprobablydontknowme22-25, F
Lol, awh man馃槥 that's an easy way to avoid nasty men on the brighter side aha.
Myzery41-45, F
But you spend every night alone.
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What comes to mind for me is:
- attractive women getting jobs over ugly women with the same credentials (especially prevalent in some Asian countries, including China and South Korea)
- ugly women rejecting men and being told "well, who else is going to want you?"
- men pushing their fetishes on less attractive women/sexually harassing them (refer to the last point)
- general nastiness toward them in online communities
- higher expectations in terms of intelligence and transferable skills
- just generally being avoided by people more often than outgoing, attractive people

I honestly don't think conventionally attractive women have it worse. Both are kinda shitty sure, but one is slightly more immediately traumatizing.
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@Aiyana: yep. totally agree.
Myzery41-45, F
@Aiyana: That too. I couldn't get a job for the longest time.
All of what you said is so true. Sadly. Not like I was given a say in the matter. Lol