To feel hurt at this

Guy friend was going through a tough time and would text me daily.
He met a new partner four months after being devastated after his wife left him for another man. Now on several occasions, he has said 'Sorry, I thought I had replied ' in response to my texts which he replies to a day or two later. All he seems to care about is his new woman.

Am I right to feel hurt that he no longer concerns himself with me now he is all better?

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LookingForIt987 · 51-55, M

There's no right or wrong to how you feel - it's how [i]you[/i] feel. Letting somebody - anybody - say you're wrong to feel that way only sets you up for feeling even worse down the line.

So, with that out of the way... I think the more important question to try and unpack is [i]why[/i] you feel that way. Are you jealous that she has the majority of his attention? (It's a genuine question, even though I probably sound like a bit of prick for asking it...) Hurt that he's mentally distracted to the point of not responding quickly? Does he do this with [i]every[/i] text you send, or only some? If it's only some, is there a pattern - like, does he get lost for late afternoon / evening texts? Weekend texts? Morning texts? If there's a discernible pattern, that may help you work around the issue for a while.

How long has he been with this other woman? That is, is this new relationship still fresh and new? Or have they been together for a while now?

I think if you can take a step back and unpack why you feel hurt [i]and[/i] at the same time try to figure out if he has any patterns and such, it may help you out.

Jenni855 · 36-40, F

@LookingForIt987 They have been together a year. I guess I feel hurt that I was clearly his temporary emotional support, his stopgap until a new woman came along. There is no pattern, happened of a morning and of an evening. Just hurts that he can't even spare me a text now he has her.

LookingForIt987 · 51-55, M

@Jenni855 OK, a year is more than enough time for him to have gotten past the “puppy love” stage.

Again, your emotions are valid; don’t let anybody tell you otherwise.