Do I really deserve this?
So, backstory.
4 years ago, employed a part time nanny for our now 8 yr old. Husband and I split last year and nanny, Maria, continued to help us by working between the two homes.
It hasn't been easy. Just the other month, Maria said she felt that my ex kept cancelling dates and not paying her for them. I said I would speak to him about it. In fact, I never got round to it as I got confirmation of my house move. I texted Maria about it and told her that now I am moving I would need her to get a bus and train to my new home. She replied saying she needed expenses paid. I replied saying I would just put my child in after care if she couldn't do it.Also that I still wanted the option of calling on her for help as and when I needed it.
She replied saying she was disappointed at being fired by text after so many years and of me saying I would need her help long term just a couple weeks before and then going back on it. Reason I said that was because I wasn't sure if the house move was going ahead.
She is now angry and hurt and I am angry with her for not understanding. Did I really handle things so badly?
4 years ago, employed a part time nanny for our now 8 yr old. Husband and I split last year and nanny, Maria, continued to help us by working between the two homes.
It hasn't been easy. Just the other month, Maria said she felt that my ex kept cancelling dates and not paying her for them. I said I would speak to him about it. In fact, I never got round to it as I got confirmation of my house move. I texted Maria about it and told her that now I am moving I would need her to get a bus and train to my new home. She replied saying she needed expenses paid. I replied saying I would just put my child in after care if she couldn't do it.Also that I still wanted the option of calling on her for help as and when I needed it.
She replied saying she was disappointed at being fired by text after so many years and of me saying I would need her help long term just a couple weeks before and then going back on it. Reason I said that was because I wasn't sure if the house move was going ahead.
She is now angry and hurt and I am angry with her for not understanding. Did I really handle things so badly?
36-40, F
