Is this body dysmorphia?

I have no idea what I look like, I can look in the mirror and see myself just fine but I have no idea what I look like to other people. I constantly obsess with looking at myself from every angle of the mirror just to see what other people are seeing. Some days I feel like I’m skinny other days I’m constantly comparing myself to other women on the street, asking my bf “am I as big as her?” Or “am I small like her?” Of course nobody gives me a straight answer in fear of offending me.

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indyjoe · 56-60, M

No, body dysmorphia is when you look at yourself and see flaws that aren't there (i.e. you are of average weight or below and you see nothing but obesity for example). My best advice is to try to stop comparing yourself to other people...everybody, every body, is different. You are different and unique, and there is nothing wrong with that at all. Be proud of who you are...just the way you are. That's not to say you can't want and make improvements, that's not my meaning, but no one is perfect and so neither are you (or me) and accepting that reality is what body acceptance is really all about.

blessedJess · 26-30, F

I don’t compare myself to other people, I use them as a reference for my size. I don’t look at these people and wish I was as skinny as them or hope I’m not as big, I use them as a guide to see what size I actually am because in my head there no way for me to see. @indyjoe

indyjoe · 56-60, M

@blessedJess Using as a reference is comparison. Other people don't see you the way you see yourself...some see you better, others see you worse so in all reality it just doesn't matter (or shouldn't). My reply still stays the same.