How do you pick up the courage to change things?

Almost 3 now years ago I moved a couple hundred miles away to live with my significant other. Since then he has cost me several jobs and lied about being able to hold his half of bills, I've lost my car, my phone is broke and I'm too busy and broke working week to week to buy a new one, which is the reason why after almost 3 years here I haven't made a single real friend, and nobody in my family has talked to me for years. I feel lonely and I've lost all my independence.

At what point being unhappy in a situation is it time to move on somewhere else, even if the direct path to becoming happy is unclear? Is there a way to fight the financial struggle to get myself back onto my own two feet?

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Platoscave · F

Everyone is being hit by this financial struggle ...all except people "they" want you to be enemies with, ie: your slightly richer sisters/brothers and other very nice people who might naturally WANT to be in your circle.

Think about that.

Its the disparity itself that causes so much self-blame and depression and other dysfunctional-ality.

In a meaningful and more compassionate world this just wouldn't have happened to you, instead you might naturally find out you are incompatible or maybe just fine, although the economy is not.

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Maybe with a better guy next time though...
I am sorry this happened to you.

ash365 · 26-30, T

@Platoscave who are 'they' exactly? It's absolutely true that everyone is feeling the hard times though, I know I'm not the only one in that boat

Platoscave · F

@ash365 Well there are dozens of films on the internet, for instance "The Money Masters" and all the spinoffs of that...that explain who "they" is,

also the work of Doug Henwood or Richard Woolf (you tube 4 both)

There's a feeling of a growing rich/poor divide in America and its not anyone's imagination

ash365 · 26-30, T

@Platoscave Oh yes the rich are getting richer and the poor are getting poorer, no doubt. It's a sad thing seeing once middle class families fall into poverty, in my old hometown 33% live in poverty now

Platoscave · F

@ash365 same w/ mine