How do you pick up the courage to change things?

Almost 3 now years ago I moved a couple hundred miles away to live with my significant other. Since then he has cost me several jobs and lied about being able to hold his half of bills, I've lost my car, my phone is broke and I'm too busy and broke working week to week to buy a new one, which is the reason why after almost 3 years here I haven't made a single real friend, and nobody in my family has talked to me for years. I feel lonely and I've lost all my independence.

At what point being unhappy in a situation is it time to move on somewhere else, even if the direct path to becoming happy is unclear? Is there a way to fight the financial struggle to get myself back onto my own two feet?

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GwydionFrost · 56-60, M

Sounds like you invested 100% and they just showed up for the cake and ice cream.

I think there is a deeper fundamental difference between you, however. One you might not have seen. See, being homeless without a safety net, like living in a car, changes you. You KNOW what waits, if you blow your money on the things that don't matter. That having a lot of stuff is only good if you have a place for it. That stability and a roof over your head and food in your mouth mean something to you.

If he's ever had that challenge, I don't know. Actions say no.

ash365 · 26-30, T

@GwydionFrost We stayed in a car together for about a month after ditching some bad landlords, but he's never had the long term struggle of staying out of a car. That experience really does change you, physical belongings don't mean as much to me anymore, if it won't fit in a car I don't own it. I think you're right though, the fact he's never had to battle financial survival on his own leaves him less aware of what it means to be careless