Did this dude literally just tell his gf

[c=#4C0073] “You need to be with a dude that beat your azz everyday then you’d see what real abuse looks like. You’d really appreciate me then.” Where dafuq do they find these dudes? Is there a shitty bf R US somewhere I don’t know about? [/c]

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xixgun · M

Having been on the other side of this conversation (and this being [u]totally[/u] taken out of context), I can only say that I have seen [i]many[/i] women who claim, because someone told them "no" when they wanted to go somewhere or buy something, that they are being abused - that perhaps he was simply trying to give her a lesson in realism and suggesting that she stop claiming abuse when there is none.

That being said, I think they should immediately break up for both their sakes.

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

@xixgun [c=#4C0073]If everytime she wants to do something with you, your answer is no that is a form of emotional abuse and manipulation. If you’re controlling the funds and she can never buy what she needs or wants that’s a form of mental abuse and manipulation. Which is why I would never be able to not have my own income or freedom. That being said It wasn’t the case here from what I heard of the conversation. [/c]

xixgun · M

@VioletRayne Wow. You just projected a whole bunch of crap at me and none of it applies. The only time I ever told a woman she couldn’t buy something was because rent was due. The only time I told a woman she couldn’t do something with me was due to other commitments, like work. And though I always covered my half of the bills, I never had a girlfriend who made less money than me. I guess you heard what you wanted to.

VioletRayne · 31-35, F

@xixgun [c=#4C0073]I never said that you did any of those things. I am well aware that there are spoiled, manipulative women out there. I don’t presume to know anything about anyone. There’s an “If” at the beginning of those statements. I’m simply saying there is another side to your statement as well. Maybe the fact that you internalized what was said is something you might need to look into.[/c]