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Was I in the wrong?

Nanny has worked with us for 4 years and the past year has been eventful. She developed crohns and my husband and I separated. She now works between our two homes.
My ex and I are not on good terms at the minute.

Today my nanny texted to say she had a migraine and wouldn't be able to work. She was meant to be at my ex's house but he wasn't answering her call. These were the texts -

Her-Hi Jen. Been sick and have a terrible migraine so won't be able to work today. I know I am meant to be at Mark's but can't get hold of him so thought I would let you know.

Me- Oh you poor thing. Hope you feel better soon.

Me- Can you let me know when Mark replies to you please? So I know whether to go and pick Archie (child) up from school?

She then took ages to respond and finally said-

'Jen. I am not feeling well. I texted you as I needed you to try and get hold of Mark to make him aware of the situation and my being ill. I don't want to be the go between. Please can you sort this between you today?'

Who was out of line here? I am pretty shocked.
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Eddiesolds · 61-69, M
Migraines arent good.id say maybe you call your ex.it will only take a minute. She just cant function today.I know I cant.
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@Eddiesolds It's sorted now, I am just annoyed at her tone
Eddiesolds · 61-69, M
@Jenni855 That's good.Hope she gets better soon and everything gets back to normal.
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@Eddiesolds I am half tempted to fire her
Eddiesolds · 61-69, M
@Jenni855 wow.How often do you get her tone? This sounds serious.
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@Eddiesolds Hardly ever but this has really annoyed me. Unwell or not she should not have spoken to me like that
Eddiesolds · 61-69, M
@Jenni855 I know. Try to be patient.she just sick right now.im sure shes in alot of pain.4 years is a long time. Just let this one pass I'm sure she will say sorry when you see her.Dont fire her. You trust her with Archie. I hope you calm down a bit.I hope you're ok.
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@Eddiesolds Thank you. I am still very angry.
Eddiesolds · 61-69, M
@Jenni855 I know. I'm so sorry
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@Jenni855 Is anything going on between her and your husband? Don't mean to be cynical here, but it might explain her critical tone and your degree of irritation about it.
Jenni855 · 36-40, F
@greenmountaingal Romantic you mean? I doubt it. He has a girlfriend who he is 'blissfully' in love with. I get the sense he and nanny don't always get along though although he/she never say anything to me about it.