How do you let go of someone really really special?

I can’t!!! I really tried but I can’t. They keep coming back to my head and it’s so hard to avoid the thoughts or block them.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

You really can't stop the thoughts. What you can do, with practice, is turn the thoughts from wishes to memories.

[b][i]That was then, and this is now. It was lovely, but it's over, in the past. [/i][/b]

SW-User

@Mamapolo2016 And from there you can embrace a future with them in it (I don't mean they have to be there now presently. The love you once held, not encumbered by the indiscretions either made, still exist if you only stumble upon letting that part back in memory). There's a phrase out there, pain is only memory; in many ways that says the love you create .... also can see through that pain and find the love it once felt and still does

Mamapolo2016 · F

Yes. I, at least, can't unlove them, but I can reposition them in my heart. They become like a beautiful house on gorgeous grounds that you admire but know you will never own.@SW-User

SW-User

@Mamapolo2016 Yes, I'm going through something like that. In a way the process of letting yourself feel that way in is beautiful on it's own and the love you have for them doesn't change outside how it evolves.