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I'm moving back closer to my family.

I'm from northern England but I've lived and worked in London for nine years. This month I am moving back to Manchester. There are a number of reasons why. London is an expensive place to live and I can't afford to rent my own place here. Also, its a young person's city and I'm now 37. A big reason also is that both my parents - my mother in particular - have health problems and I want to be closer to home. They are still active and only in their late 60s but recent events put things in perspective. I've always been different from my parents in some way because I've never been much a family orientated person but I think maybe this is wrong.

Whatever our differences; they are both good people. They seemed really pleased when I told them and a colleague of mine said they would be because though parents never say so, they always want their kids living close by. In Manchester, I can visit them on weekends, instead of just twice a year.

My life has been down here for a decade, as are 100% of the friends I am in contact with. I know I can make new friends though because I did that four years ago when my life fell apart after my divorce. So I can do it again. I've said to people I will visit London once a year and I will stick to that. Though there are people I will miss, including my best friend. He is a super intellectual guy who has lots of problems and I like to be near him too but I can't be. I just need to make sure I pick up the phone regularly because I am his only friend. He has told me that leaving London is the right thing for me to do.

I feel really melancholic typic this. I'm frustrated at all the crap I have to sort out and nervous about the future. I am also excited because it is a new chapter and I also feel I need a change of scene to help me to grow up a bit. I feel some sadness but I don't have any doubts about what I'm doing. It's time.
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BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
Reading your post, I feel bad, because I am doing the opposite and even though I am very different from my mother, she is not a bad person. Good luck there.
Burnley123 · 41-45, M
@BittersweetPotato I lived in London for nearly a decade and part of that was a desire for distance. I was your age when I moved too. People change and so do priorities. You have to do what you feel is for the best.
BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
@Burnley123 Thank you, that helped. I feel the best decision is to leave, but then problem is that I cannot estimate the consequences and they seem very bad. I hate it when I have to take a decision based on uncertain basis.
Burnley123 · 41-45, M
@BittersweetPotato All decisions are uncertain in some ways. I don't know specifics but it sounds like you need a bit of autonomomy from your family. You can keep in contact and can return if your situation and/or feelings change.
BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
@Burnley123 This is the thing, me leaving is probably the end of it. But yes, I do need a lot of autonomy and to start living life.
Burnley123 · 41-45, M
@BittersweetPotato Tbh. I don't know your situation but I wish you all the best
BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
@Burnley123 Thanks 😊