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I'm moving back closer to my family.

I'm from northern England but I've lived and worked in London for nine years. This month I am moving back to Manchester. There are a number of reasons why. London is an expensive place to live and I can't afford to rent my own place here. Also, its a young person's city and I'm now 37. A big reason also is that both my parents - my mother in particular - have health problems and I want to be closer to home. They are still active and only in their late 60s but recent events put things in perspective. I've always been different from my parents in some way because I've never been much a family orientated person but I think maybe this is wrong.

Whatever our differences; they are both good people. They seemed really pleased when I told them and a colleague of mine said they would be because though parents never say so, they always want their kids living close by. In Manchester, I can visit them on weekends, instead of just twice a year.

My life has been down here for a decade, as are 100% of the friends I am in contact with. I know I can make new friends though because I did that four years ago when my life fell apart after my divorce. So I can do it again. I've said to people I will visit London once a year and I will stick to that. Though there are people I will miss, including my best friend. He is a super intellectual guy who has lots of problems and I like to be near him too but I can't be. I just need to make sure I pick up the phone regularly because I am his only friend. He has told me that leaving London is the right thing for me to do.

I feel really melancholic typic this. I'm frustrated at all the crap I have to sort out and nervous about the future. I am also excited because it is a new chapter and I also feel I need a change of scene to help me to grow up a bit. I feel some sadness but I don't have any doubts about what I'm doing. It's time.
Ironicman56-60, M
Good luck with the move back. London is certainly expensive. I have a similar situation with my elderly Mother. I would like to move out of London to somewhere quiet and less expensive. I can't leave my mum isolated and my kids love their school, therefore I'm not going anywhere at the moment.

Keep in touch with your pal. Do you have to find another job or can you transfer?
Burnley12341-45, M
@Ironicman Thanks. I have a contract to do agency work for a while but in my field, there are a lot of opportunities.

I understand why you have to say. Family comes first.
akindheart61-69, F
i was in london for vacation in august. love the place.
BittersweetPotato31-35, F
Reading your post, I feel bad, because I am doing the opposite and even though I am very different from my mother, she is not a bad person. Good luck there.
BittersweetPotato31-35, F
@Burnley123 This is the thing, me leaving is probably the end of it. But yes, I do need a lot of autonomy and to start living life.
Burnley12341-45, M
@BittersweetPotato Tbh. I don't know your situation but I wish you all the best
BittersweetPotato31-35, F
@Burnley123 Thanks 馃槉
Longleggedlady31-35, F
It is a big step and I'd going to take sometime to adapt back from living in London, we ourselves lived in Chelsea/Knightsbridge for few years and it was very different moving out to rural Surrey. But good luck with it.
You are right family is very important and keep in touch with your friend
SmartKat56-60, F
It鈥檚 a big change, and change is always disruptive and just plain tough (even good changes.) It may take some time, but you鈥檒l build a life for yourself again. It鈥檚 normal to have mixed feelings about this.
Changes are always difficult but I admire the fact that you've put together your priorities and made decisions accordingly.
Good luck 馃憤
Burnley12341-45, M
@BridgeOvertroubledWaters I appreciate the support
SW-User
Ah Manchester, so much to answer for...best of luck!
SW-User
@Burnley123 probably a Starbucks.
Burnley12341-45, M
@SW-User Maybe lol. It was too dingey and out of the way though.
SW-User
@Burnley123 most of Manchester was, it's all a lot glitzier now.
SW-User
Good luck. I've always lived in London but its just so expensive. Moving is really stressful but it sounds like a positive step.
Burnley12341-45, M
@SW-User thanks
RodionRomanovitch56-60, M
There's no place like home.

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monte370-79, M
Good luck! It is so interesting that you say London is a young person鈥檚 city. When our daughter lived there it was the best time of her life. But she was in that perfect age group. Sharing lodging to make it afford able etc.
I know your patients will appreciate what you are doing.
SW-User
Best of luck
Have you found your new house yet?
Burnley12341-45, M
@EarthlingWise Yeah. It's all good

 
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