The primary cause of unhappiness...

Is never the situation itself...but perhaps your thoughts about it?

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I'm pretty sure I would be happier if the situation had not come about. Although I am seeing more of your point, that would mean if I don't think about my situation, therefore it would not cause me unhappiness. Yet would that not be simply putting things out of mind and not dealing with the problem itself?

Fernie · F

@AlmostAnAngel there are different ways to "deal" with things...negatively, giving in to it, letting it consume you or finding a way to deal positively....finding your inner strength

AlmostAnAngel · 100+, F

@Fernie I think I would rather deal with it than let it stew.

Fernie · F

@AlmostAnAngel That is very wise because that negative stuff manifests as something toxic inside us when we "stew" and never let it go. It can make us physically ill...dis-ease

AlmostAnAngel · 100+, F

@Fernie damn right it can

Pambi · 26-30, F

@AlmostAnAngel Unfortunately we can't stop that "thinker" in our heads. What if this... What if that. But what we can do is find acceptance of what... Is. It happened. Feel it. Learn from it. And apply it to the moment at hand to the best of your ability.

Certainly we are going to think about "what happened "...fear has its way with us each day. Finds your weakness. Exploits it. That's the thinker in your head. Repetitive.. Constantly worried and stressful. You are not your thoughts. You remain the awareness behind them.

Fernie · F

@Pambi I must disagree with that Pambi...a thought...any thought can be changed. Most of us don't know that until we know it. With some practice...we all have the ability to replace bad thoughts with good ones. That "thinker" can be stopped

Pambi · 26-30, F

@Fernie Certainly...motivation.... Incentive... Self need all influence the thinker in your head.

But thinking in and of itself is automatic and repetitive.

To say "I think"...is like saying "I digest my food"..."I circulate my blood".

It just happens.

The awareness that you remain offers its too cents.

Fernie · F

@Pambi IT is AUTOMATIC AND REPETITIVE...THAT IS WHY SO MAY FIND IT IMPOSSIBLE TO MEDITATE...BUT ONCE THEY LEARN TO IMMEDIATELY PUSH THE THOUGHT AWAY AND BRING THEIR AWARENESS BACK TO THE MEDITATION...THEREIN LIES THE PRACTICE...THOSE THOUGHTS NEVER STAY...WE REPLACE THEM IMMEDIATELY....oops...caps...too pooped to redo...not yelling!