The primary cause of unhappiness...

@Picklebobble2 Excellent point... Or if not someone, then "sometime". We base what we expect on learned behavior from the past... Hoping tomorrow will provide a better day. No past.. No future. What we have is right now.

@Picklebobble2 well said PB! "there is no way to happiness...happiness IS the way"

@Pambi I must disagree with that Pambi...a thought...any thought can be changed. Most of us don't know that until we know it. With some practice...we all have the ability to replace bad thoughts with good ones. That "thinker" can be stopped

@Fernie Certainly...motivation.... Incentive... Self need all influence the thinker in your head.

But thinking in and of itself is automatic and repetitive.

To say "I think"...is like saying "I digest my food"..."I circulate my blood".

It just happens.

The awareness that you remain offers its too cents.

@Pambi IT is AUTOMATIC AND REPETITIVE...THAT IS WHY SO MAY FIND IT IMPOSSIBLE TO MEDITATE...BUT ONCE THEY LEARN TO IMMEDIATELY PUSH THE THOUGHT AWAY AND BRING THEIR AWARENESS BACK TO THE MEDITATION...THEREIN LIES THE PRACTICE...THOSE THOUGHTS NEVER STAY...WE REPLACE THEM IMMEDIATELY....oops...caps...too pooped to redo...not yelling!

@SW-User "maybe I'm this"..."maybe this happened in the past "

The past has no power over you today. It's an illusion. A memory. We make who we "are" right now. This very moment is all we have.

@Pambi It's easy to say it but our past is what made us and our present is where we're stuck

whisper the secret to my dead will so I could continue rolling forward

@SW-User Consider the concept of "right now".

What ever you believe "made you"...happened right now, back then.

What ever will take place in the future.. Will happen... Right now, when it does.

It'll be Right Now.

Stay I'm the moment...and your dead will find peace.

@Fernie Amen

@NewBeginnings7790 And acceptance itself, even a more difficult character to offer a seat.

@SW-User Sending "Good thought" vibes your way in 3..2..1

@Pambi hot damn!!!! Yay!!

@jackson55 do they ever. This site is a great example of that.

@jackson55 I agree. Sometimes for some people...it becomes a daily habit...a comfort zone

@bijouxbroussard The situation...

Happened.

It caused nothing.

It has no intent.

Your... Our... Thoughts make it so.

@Pambi Well, you don't know the situation. Why or intent is irrelevant. It caused me to be a widow and childless. I don't know anyone else who could've taken that and chosen to see it as a positive thing. And yes, I've had decades to make some kind of peace with that [b]situation[/b]. But yes, it was the situation itself.

@bijouxbroussard I have faith that you will find peace someday.

Situations...no matter how horrible, create space in our lives.

How we choose to fill them then becomes a situation WE can control.

I too have experienced great loss and I speak not from mere words... But from my heart.