advice please. Im kinda losing my head

My partner and I have started our small business. We do delicious vegetarian food and so far we doing decent. I have severe social anxiety and i cannot work. Having this business helps me alot because i feel i am doing something to earn money plus i do what i love which is cooking. We decided that when we marry he will work and i will work from home doing catering. My partners mother has other ideas. She is furious with me working from home and keeps telling my partner i have to go to work . She is really stressing me out. I am so focused on this business and for the first time i feel i am something. She makes me feel so bad bcause in her mind a real woman works and pays bills and even tho i work so hard she doesn see it. She thinks i load of her son and thats nt the case. She is stressin me out alot. What do i do???

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revenant · F

doesn't she have a life to attend to and he needs to grow a spine too otherwise your problems with her will only get worse if she sees she has permission to intrude in your marriage.

Clairessa09 · 31-35

@revenant shes always like that. Very dominatinh and controlling. Shes ashamed of me i know and she always asks when im gna drive and do this and that . My partner supports me 100% and always ther for me .But she is getting under my skin. Her kids r all top professionals so a stay at home wife wid a small food business is nt good enuf for her

revenant · F

@Clairessa09 would your partner tolerate you criticising her ? It should be a 2 way street in reality but ..think about it and much luck to you

Clairessa09 · 31-35

@revenant i tel hom all the time his mother is a pain and he knows that. He tells me to nt bother abt her and ignore her. He always sides wid me tho. Hes all for me. He told her time and time again to back off

revenant · F

@Clairessa09 it is about respect in the end. I had a horrible mother in law too and it was like children : they dare and dare and dare to go further and further and I really wish I would have told her to phuck off a long time before she went all crazy instead of OK i will accept that and that

Clairessa09 · 31-35

@revenant i know. I get upset wid him and tell him all the time cos he tells me to ignore her and jus let her be. But i feel so disrespected. I know she doesn like me even tho i made so much changes to her sons life. She wants a woman for her son who is a professional and got a nice car..i hav none of that but im a good woman and good at what i do wid food..but she wnts more..she pushes me and im so stressed..i always felt nt good enuf my whole life 😭been fightin depression and anxiety for like ever. I want a break from all this now

revenant · F

@Clairessa09 you and your husband need to get her out of your life 😡

Clairessa09 · 31-35

@revenant how? Oh and she also wants to decorate our house. Put tiles blah blah. She upset we paid so much for a house wen the toilets nt right.. we said we gna do it up..well nt good enuf for her. Im sick of it. Its our first home she wants it to be perfect and it is jus needs new toilets and tiles. I mean am i wrong to be upset? As for my sister in law..ignores me totally..no birthday wish no anniversary wish..ntn not once. I hav a broken family and to go into this. Im emotionally drained. Wat do i do???