I don't think that I'll ever get ahead in life

I work hard, get paid decent money and have not many bills. The problem is mom is constantly borrowing and not paying back. I once told her how much she owed me and I got abused by her because she reckons that I shouldn't count every cent she's borrowed idk. It makes it hard cuz she begs when I tell her I can't lend and then I have to put off paying bills.

I don't think I'll ever be able to do things that I want to do like travel overseas. It might be easier if I kill myself

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Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F

Ok so... it looks bleak right now.. but don't be tempted to get into NEVER - there's no need as things can and DO change.
Your mum, (and bear in mind I am a mum too of people your age) is taking advantage.. She is effectively stealing if she borrows and doesn't pay it back.. it's not nice and it's especially nasty when you do that to your own son or daughter.
At some point you will feel you have had enough.. you will either move out or just refuse.. You cannot keep letting her take your money.. I assume you give her some money for providing a roof over your head? Perhaps you could pay a little more.. but beyond that I really don't think you should have to lend her or give her more, especially not on a regular basis..
In many ways it's also not helping her.. she needs to learn to manage her finances better so that she doesn't keep needing to borrow from you.. what if you weren't there?

PinkPowerRanger ·

do you live with her?

iamnikki · 31-35, F

stop letting her borrow. Take the money out your account then show her an account with like $50 in it. Then put money back in ...I don't know...

DarlingSelah ·

Stop giving her money. Get your shit together.

Spoiledbrat · F

Does she need your help?

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