That does depend a lot, on just what they do or say. I can't not say anything, often. I was 'dating' a man once, and we were at a little bar/restaurant a lot of us locals liked. I saw a male friend I hadn't seen in a while, and excused myself to go greet and talk with him. Saying why and everything..."there's my old friend'_____', I'm going to go see how he's doing".
When I got back to the table, that man very loudly berated me for going over and talking to that "fag". That was the end of my interest in a relationship with that man. I was glad to find out early on, that he was bigoted in a way I can't abide.
