I Am Bisexual

I wish I could tell people I'm no, but I'm afraid of rejection. I don't want people to hate me for it, so I just keep my mouth shut about it. It would be nice to have a significant other, but I'm not sure I'm ready to date now, thankfully. I probably wouldn't date a guy because I don't want people to know; however, maybe in the future I could have that leisure.

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Cooper802Forever · 26-30, M

hmm i do the same thing kinda, i'm gay and at times i don't want others to know but i'm not that eager to hide it anymore...only thing i can't deal with is like with crowds/groups asking me about my sexuality. about twice this has happened to me, once someone just bluntly asked me about my sexuality at school out of the blue in front of their group of friends....i lied and told them i wasn't sure yet. (though the person who asked me found it to be B.S. cuase they could tell i was hiding something so they found out by me telling them eventually, they were gay to by the way)...when it happens like that i panic kind of because its a group of people and im kind of being pressured to answer by all of them so i lie. but if it's one person, who's nice and genuinely would like to know then I'd tell them

Weskerisevil · 22-25, M

It's all about who you tell I guess. My school is literally filled with 90% anti-lgbt people, so that's already a bit difficult. I just don't want people to see me as a different person if I told them.

Cooper802Forever · 26-30, M

@Weskerisevil: OMG! I feel the same way, I mean I'll admit my schools way more open about gay and lgbt...but I've thought the same thing "That I don't want for others to see me as a different person" I've struggled to tell the friends that I've told already and it was because of that so I completely understand that thought/feeling.

Weskerisevil · 22-25, M

@Cooper802Forever: I know right? It's all stereotypes , and if you tell people you are gay or no, they'll immediately think you are the copy and paste version of a homosexual. People are just not cool sometimes.

Cooper802Forever · 26-30, M

@Weskerisevil: well I thought of it as them seeing me as I've changed, I never really considered that is be seen as a quote on quote "stereotypical gay" I just didn't like the Idea of bringing something up to them that I've kind of hidden or they would see me in a different prespective...when naturally I just want them to look at me the same as when we hang out and stuff. Part of me at the end of middle school wanted to tell some of my friends that I was gay, but this thought rung throughout my mind at that time so much that it prevented me from actually manning up and saying it. I'd even planned to tell them but chickened out due to me thinking they'll see me in a different way, so I kept quiet instead. But I'll admit I've told a couple of friends and it does not feel like anything has changed, and i'm glad that nothing has between all of us....but I still feel hesitate to say it especially in front of a group or crowd, to others, to accept it 100%. I'm not saying I don't accept it to the point that I reject it in me or others, in fact I support it, and those who are brave enough to show it...but there's just a kink in me that's not 100% honest with others or myself much...and I want to come to be able to proudly say "I'm gay" at any time I may please...

Weskerisevil · 22-25, M

@Cooper802Forever: Exactly, like if I were to hang out with just a guy friend, I don't want him to think I'm coming on to him or anything. Just to know that I'm bi, and nothing else has changed.

Weskerisevil · 22-25, M

@Cooper802Forever: Same here on the notion I want to just tell it to people 100%. I was close one time, then I choked. Another time, my dad asked if I was gay, and I told him no.