I'll never understand homophobes

Especially my parents. I was with my Mom to drop off her dress at the cleaners when she brought up a good friend of mine who is lesbian. My friend and I have known each other since elementary and my Mom knows her too as she worked with her mom. But that day she found out through social media that my friend is attracted to women which sent her into this nonsense rant about how people who are gay are "lost" and what it says about sleeping with the same sex in the Bible and yada, yada.

To which I replied, "gay people aren't lost, they know who they are, just like you {Mom} know who you are, it would be silly for someone who is gay to lie to themselves that they're not. With that answer, I guess she got it in her head that because I'm siding with the lgbt, instead of bashing them like she was doing that I must be gay as well because she asked me if I liked men or women. You should have seen the look on my face, I was in disbelief that this is where our conversation came to, to verify if i'm on her side or on their side. Eventually she stopped talking about it, thank goodness.

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SUPERVlXEN · F

Hopefully there’ll come a day where people will be accepted for simply being people, no matter if we fit into the narrative of their “normal” world, or not.

Dainbramadge · 56-60, M

@SUPERVlXEN We won't ever live in a utopia like that unfortunately.
People spend way to much time, no matter age, segregating them selves and others for any reason.
They fear the unfamiliar.
We can only hope that people will become more comfortable with them selves and spend more time finding people that except them for who they are and not trying to change other peoples bad programing.

SUPERVlXEN · F

@Dainbramadge

We can only hope that people will become more comfortable with them selves and spend more time finding people that except them for who they are and not trying to change other peoples bad programing.

Call it bad programing or what you want to, but the new wave isn't by bad programing of those behind it. It's a deliberate attempt to target minorities with a purpose to distract from an anti-democratic effort to stay in power.

The only way to chance such efforts is by standing up and fighting against these. It's no coincidence that the dark powers have targeted schools and cancelling a lot of stuff that is part of becoming a generally knowledgeable citizen. Education is where chances can be made, for the better and for the worse. Leaning back and just hope people will become more comfortable with themselves is utopia in my view.

Dainbramadge · 56-60, M

@SUPERVlXEN The only person you can change is yourself.
No amount of standing up will ever bring a bigot to consciousness.

SUPERVlXEN · F

@Dainbramadge
Education can illuminate and thereby create a the foundation for a change in how people look at things. It's not by me, but by each individual themselves having a chance to know that there exists a world outside their closed little bubble, and thereby how they will look at the world. I won't go back in history to pull up the achievements there's been, tho still not all are fully accepted, especially during this new wave of fascism. Thank you, I wish you a lovely night.