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DunningKruger · 61-69, M
None of us actually know anyone — what we know is the virtual image of a person we have constructed in our minds based on whatever interactions we've had, all mixed in with attraction and desire and our own unfulfilled needs.
Some people lose the plot, and lose the realization that the virtual person in their head isn't necessarily a good, reasonably accurate version of the real person. Their own identities become enamored of and entwined with the illusory person they have created, and yet this isn't enough. They really want and need the real person to conform to their vision of them.
By stalking the target of their obsession, stalkers are looking for something that will allow them to reconcile the discrepancies between the image in their minds and the real person, but only if it reconciles in favor of that illusion.
This is why, I think, it's not unusual for stalkers to ultimately turn on their targets, seeking to harm or kill them — partly, it's as punishment for not playing the role the stalker has assigned to them, but it's also so that the real person can no longer compete with the illusion and threaten its validity in the stalker's mind.
My 2¢, for what it's worth.
Some people lose the plot, and lose the realization that the virtual person in their head isn't necessarily a good, reasonably accurate version of the real person. Their own identities become enamored of and entwined with the illusory person they have created, and yet this isn't enough. They really want and need the real person to conform to their vision of them.
By stalking the target of their obsession, stalkers are looking for something that will allow them to reconcile the discrepancies between the image in their minds and the real person, but only if it reconciles in favor of that illusion.
This is why, I think, it's not unusual for stalkers to ultimately turn on their targets, seeking to harm or kill them — partly, it's as punishment for not playing the role the stalker has assigned to them, but it's also so that the real person can no longer compete with the illusion and threaten its validity in the stalker's mind.
My 2¢, for what it's worth.