It's funny how when I am in a good mood, trying to protect it, I always attract the manipulative shitheads.. Both men and women.

Especially those who like to feel victimized by my own choices and even need to protect myself, lurking around in my space trying to push my personal boundaries. And always framing their manipulative attempts as something else.

Grief eaters can't stand seeing others content with their life and aiming to preserve that contentment.

Too many of them , even when they empathize, it is to make themselves less alone in their misery.

The type that are temporarily "nice" to you when you are in the shit, and if you put a tough mask on and keep pushing, they take you for a target practice .

They don't want to see you being resilient. They don't want to see you grow. They want you to dwell in your misery and be another proof of limitations over will power..

and yes, it is true that our limitations can break us and we will all cease to exist eventually, but to accept that as a part of life isn't the same as to use it to break others down over and over again, afraid they might be the exception to the rule.

When I am in a bad and incredibly aggressive intolerant mood, these types of people all disappear. Guess they don't like being treated like the shitheads they are.

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Gibbon · 70-79, M

If I generalized this post to myself dealing with grief I come to realize why being banned from the grief therapy site for giving a drunken moderator a piece of my mind after a day or two didn't feel like the end of the world.
I mean just think about it. When you are in a group of broken souls all voicing the same pain to one another all you have is a safe place to express yourself because everyone understands but no solutions.
I have expressed myself here in a clown fest of a forum and received better understanding and emotional support than I ever got where I went to get help.
I can understand the attachment you discussed in your other post.
Unfortunately it's the Florence Nightingale Syndrome in reverse for me.
It took me a while to get in my head I developed an attraction for someone who sees many like me every day while their personality is a single special experience in my life.

AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

Its real and its disgusting. And you would think that other women would be sympathetic and could relate to one another in times like these but they are just as bad if not worse than some of the men. Sadly ive just come to see everyone as a potential manipulator until i see different. This is why i keep people at arms length.

Miram · 31-35, F

@AngelUnforgiven

I am honestly puzzled by the fact that they never tire of their own toxicity. They always have someone to hate and demonize.. and they are quick to change faces and shape shift. I would be amazed if I didn't know what it costs others to fall for it.

I don't blame you for trusting no one.

AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

@Miram i always wonder how people look in the mirror when they manipulate and hurt other people. How do they live with themselves. Someone on here tried to use my sister's death for their own disgusting agenda. Its like when you are in a vulnerable state people circle you like lions as if you are a wounded gazelle. It was the lowest most despicable thing that i have ever witnessed in my life. How could this person be this disgusting i didnt think that there was an actual level where a human being could stoop this low. It was eye opening.

SinlessOnslaught · M

I hope you're okay. ❤‍🩹

BlueGreenGrey · M

It sounds like you have some methods for dealing with these people, and I hope that those encounters, and the subsequent act of addressing them, do not take you out of your good mood, or that you are able to quickly return to the good mood after neutralizing their efforts

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Miram · 31-35, F

@SwampFlower

I take their attempt to demonize me and make it worse "Yes, me saying that I need space absolutely does mean I am horrible selfish person who isn't thinking of what's best for others. I am Satan itself... etc"

They usually step back because they don't want their attempts exposed like that.. they want to be indirect and play it as safe as possible because to them what other people think matters more than anything else. They worry about losing social approval. By exposing their end game , they shrink themselves.

Sometimes what I tell them what they will exactly behave like. I tell them they are about to play the victim card again when these matters are none of their business. I say their words before they do lol

Other times I tell them if they don't stop attempting to drag me down I will give them a real reason to feel victimized.

And sometimes I mirror their attitudes and play the victim and then laugh at them.

It depends on my mood.

SUPERVlXEN · F

I tell them...

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