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Do u know someone with a victim mentality?

I have been ignoring one user here who i blocked on WhatsApp and then she messaged me here from her alt account after i had blocked her earlier account.

She talks about killing herself. She shows me pics of her cutting her wrist and no matter how much i tried to help her somehow it was all my fault.

She twisted everything i wrote to her which was with the intent to help her find her inner happiness and she continued to harass me.

This woman only talks about how the world has wronged her and how she has been the victim all the time. How everybody hates her here and how she's attacked by people.

Always remember the person who feels they r always a victim and who have nothing positive to talk is no good influence. I thought it's my moral responsibility to help her come out of it but all she did was harass me.

She has been posting mean things about me here and i kept quiet but she goes on talking bullshit about me and it's high time i stand up for my self respect.

Learnt my lesson the hard way. Some people just don't need any help.
They NEED a lot of help, but they won't accept it.

There are some who wear victimhood like a magic cloak.

First date rule applies:

If a person spends the first date explaining in dreadful detail how every person they were involved with abused them, call a taxi.
@SW-User Sometimes. You have to develop an ear.

Most of the time helping someone is very good for the soul.
@Mamapolo2016 if on a first date they even mention an ex....call a taxi !
@InOtterWords You're right.
SW-User
We don't all experience the world the same. Many people don't have the experience of healthy loving relationships and so they act out. You can't help such an individual. They need professional assistance but the mind might already be so warped that they may not see the advantage of such intervention. Wish them well and leave them alone. Don't blame them as you may not know nor understand the circumstances that got them to that place. Just let them be and wish them well.
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@SW-User I did nothing but i simply walked out but she's the one to post negative things about me and giving people a wrong picture. If she can't shutup and she continues to post about me then I'm no saint to take her crap. She took advantage of my silence for all these days. I can't allow someone to just walk over me when all i did was to help them.

U have no idea how much she keeps harassing me. I m tired blocking her alt accounts. I let her be but she can't stop attacking me
SW-User
@SW-User I'm sorry that she has done these things to you
This is how trolls attack. Sorry this happened to you.

Please report them and block them. No use wasting your time or energy on them…trust me they crave negative attention, like pigs.

If they are twisting your positive and caring thoughts into something negative, then they’re toxic. Stay away from such manipulative douches.
That’s really hurting….especially since your intent was solely to be kind and helpful to her. I’m so sorry you’re being badmouthed for being kind.

It’s happened with me a few times, so you have to just be thick skinned to survive here. At the end of the day, remember what Dr Seuss says 🤗💖
@SW-User
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@Vivaci so true
@SW-User Don’t take too much to heart. The one’s who have treated me bad have repented it after years…
Time will show them how wrong they were…so leave that be.

Have fun…enjoy your life. It’s minus one toxic person rn 😉
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Yeah i had that experience but with a man, used to tell me lots of awful things but that included things like he's gonna commit suicide cause I didn't love him and he'd write a note about me and well lots of things, so yeah it feels really bad cause they manipulate you, then hate you etc.
You have to stay away from them.
Cause do that repeatedly
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@SW-User clearly this woman has manipulated me and i feel so sick because i really tried to help but she drove me crazy enough that i called her names like she's fucking crazy psycho. I didn't want to but she just wouldn't stop attacking me.
Lilliesandlight · 41-45, F
@SW-User absolute craziness
Heartlander · 80-89, M
Any messages about someone wanting to harm themselves or someone else should be forwarded to the site administrators.

I would possibly also forward a copy to the local police. I have no idea whether they can or can't do anything meaningful beyond shrugging their shoulders, but they likely have better options than I would.

I'm personally aware of 4, maybe 5 suicides. One still sort of haunts me.
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@Heartlander oh God im so sorry. This woman has given me so many headaches you have no idea. I regret even meeting her.
ABCDEF7 · M
Yes, it's very difficult to deal with such persons. The moment I realized it, I knew, how much I try it's not easy for me to control/manage such kind of person. All I wanted to get rid of her, and I knew it's not going to be easy for me. She tried to suicide few times, and finally. Everything was at peace..

Sometimes I feel guilty of not trying enough for saving her, but then I think, might be it was destined.
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@ABCDEF7 oh I'm sorry she made you experience that. I can't even imagine how it must have been for u
SW-User
I used to reach out to people I thought I might be able to help and I realised that I can't help anyone who isn't willing to help themselves. Eventually their pain and trauma would end up making me either their punching bag or their villain.
I no longer reach out to anyone and I don't even try to give support that is not asked for.
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@SW-User Believe me i had the same experience. I did everything to help but the way my messages were twisted and manipulated .....grrrrr!
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@SW-User Traumatised people perceive threats in everything. I hope you're able to move on from this experience because it's not your fault either that their life is as it is and can feel distressing to be on the receiving end.
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What a serious nut job, you are much better off
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@SW-User you bet. The worse thing is she's talking nonsense about me after i only tried to help. I only kept quiet but she's just not stopping
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@SW-User I'm sorry to hear that
That's why I don't do pm's anymore.
SW-User
Omg, I’m sorry that’s terrible. It would have been better for you to keep a distance from her at the beginning. I know you just wanted to help but some people can’t be helped. Now she’s probably blaming you for her life. That’s kind of what happened to me in the past by a female.
I am so sorry that she has continued to post about you and create this drama around herself. I fully understand the need to defend yourself especially as she makes it quite clear it is about you without using your user name. It is clear harassment and bullying and anyone joining in is just enabling this behaviour. You don't deserve this.
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@InOtterWords Ya she just can't stop attacking me. U know that i had ignored her earlier posts but in hindsight she's too shallow and petty. I have never met anyone who is so hostile.
@SW-User they kept on making posts you had to stand up for yourself..... and yet they claim to be bullied.
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Yes and it's annoying
Lilliesandlight · 41-45, F
Yes, unfortunately I have coworker like that. She's a horrible employee in every way but when I and several other people complain about her to "management" , she plays the victim so well that she gets off Scott free.
theAlchemist · 56-60, M
No. Such people need to shut up and grow up.
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@theAlchemist she's 48 and emotionally immature. What sickens me is i kept quiet and she went on posting about me. It's only after i had enough of her fake posts that i felt the need to make this post
Lilliesandlight · 41-45, F
I think the victim mentality is just a manipulation tactic
Personality disorder
REMsleep · 41-45, F
Yes I have met people like this. Sadly you can't be their savior. Depression has many causes but the outcome is often the same which is a series of negative looping thoughts and a negative doomsday mindset.
You cannot change this for her. Some people just need a little help while some people need ALOT of help.
She wont take responsibility for her actions and will blame others.
Often these people if they find a listening ear will make that person their center focus and then bring them down.
I will pray for her. She needs help.
i am always worried that i am like this. with a victim mentality. always blaming others for things i allowed to happen in my life. ):
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She sounds like someone I blocked, she's never going to change. She's been like this for years
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@SW-User i m messaging u privately on the username of this person

 
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