Do u know someone with a victim mentality? I have been ignoring one user here who i blocked on...

Mamapolo2016 · F

They NEED a lot of help, but they won't accept it.

There are some who wear victimhood like a magic cloak.

First date rule applies:

If a person spends the first date explaining in dreadful detail how every person they were involved with abused them, call a taxi.

SW-User

We don't all experience the world the same. Many people don't have the experience of healthy loving relationships and so they act out. You can't help such an individual. They need professional assistance but the mind might already be so warped that they may not see the advantage of such intervention. Wish them well and leave them alone. Don't blame them as you may not know nor understand the circumstances that got them to that place. Just let them be and wish them well.

Vivaci

This is how trolls attack. Sorry this happened to you.

Please report them and block them. No use wasting your time or energy on them…trust me they crave negative attention, like pigs.

If they are twisting your positive and caring thoughts into something negative, then they’re toxic. Stay away from such manipulative douches.

SW-User

Yeah i had that experience but with a man, used to tell me lots of awful things but that included things like he's gonna commit suicide cause I didn't love him and he'd write a note about me and well lots of things, so yeah it feels really bad cause they manipulate you, then hate you etc.
You have to stay away from them.
Cause do that repeatedly

Heartlander · 80-89, M

Any messages about someone wanting to harm themselves or someone else should be forwarded to the site administrators.

I would possibly also forward a copy to the local police. I have no idea whether they can or can't do anything meaningful beyond shrugging their shoulders, but they likely have better options than I would.

I'm personally aware of 4, maybe 5 suicides. One still sort of haunts me.

ABCDEF7 · M

Yes, it's very difficult to deal with such persons. The moment I realized it, I knew, how much I try it's not easy for me to control/manage such kind of person. All I wanted to get rid of her, and I knew it's not going to be easy for me. She tried to suicide few times, and finally. Everything was at peace..

Sometimes I feel guilty of not trying enough for saving her, but then I think, might be it was destined.

SW-User

I used to reach out to people I thought I might be able to help and I realised that I can't help anyone who isn't willing to help themselves. Eventually their pain and trauma would end up making me either their punching bag or their villain.
I no longer reach out to anyone and I don't even try to give support that is not asked for.

SW-User

What a serious nut job, you are much better off

Spoiledbrat · F

That's why I don't do pm's anymore.

SW-User

Omg, I’m sorry that’s terrible. It would have been better for you to keep a distance from her at the beginning. I know you just wanted to help but some people can’t be helped. Now she’s probably blaming you for her life. That’s kind of what happened to me in the past by a female.

InOtterWords · F

I am so sorry that she has continued to post about you and create this drama around herself. I fully understand the need to defend yourself especially as she makes it quite clear it is about you without using your user name. It is clear harassment and bullying and anyone joining in is just enabling this behaviour. You don't deserve this.

SW-User

Yes and it's annoying

Lilliesandlight · 41-45, F

Yes, unfortunately I have coworker like that. She's a horrible employee in every way but when I and several other people complain about her to "management" , she plays the victim so well that she gets off Scott free.

theAlchemist · 56-60, M

No. Such people need to shut up and grow up.

Lilliesandlight · 41-45, F

I think the victim mentality is just a manipulation tactic

PrettyFlamingos · F

Personality disorder

REMsleep · 41-45, F

Yes I have met people like this. Sadly you can't be their savior. Depression has many causes but the outcome is often the same which is a series of negative looping thoughts and a negative doomsday mindset.
You cannot change this for her. Some people just need a little help while some people need ALOT of help.
She wont take responsibility for her actions and will blame others.
Often these people if they find a listening ear will make that person their center focus and then bring them down.
I will pray for her. She needs help.

deathfairy ·

i am always worried that i am like this. with a victim mentality. always blaming others for things i allowed to happen in my life. ):

SW-User

She sounds like someone I blocked, she's never going to change. She's been like this for years