It is impossible to find some space to talk about how women who date abusive men fail their own kids

Without having to comfort the women who need reassurance about their own situations.
This is both offline and online.

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kodiac · 22-25, M Best Comment

An example when i was 8 i got a foster placement where the husband would get drunk and start hitting the wife . I felt bad for her ,i figured out if i could get him to focus on me he wouldn't hurt her so i did stuff to make him take his anger out on me . In the end she moved out and left me there with him .I felt so betrayed that she left me to face his wrath.

Miram · 31-35, F

@kodiac

I think , in many instances , it is a greater betrayal than the abuse itself. You can learn to hate a direct abuser. When it is indirect involvement as in negligence, lack of prioritization and apathy, it erodes your sense of self in the most horrible of ways. No walls up, no disconnection to soften the hurt. Completely unexpected and raw.

It is the people we love that can hurt us the most.

kodiac · 22-25, M

@Miram Thanks for bc , i agree somethings can hurt more than physical pain .I'm kind of sad that no one else responded, but seems like any topic that gets below the surface or requires deeper thought is not a hot topic .I appreciate your posts because they are not the run of the mill jabber . Nothing wrong with the shallow posts just like ones that require critical thinking.

Miram · 31-35, F

@kodiac

Here, that's a positive thing. Not getting many replies on this topic. Last time I have, people especially women twisted my content and posted about me being uncompassionate. And how I am this and that.

People like to only react and think when it is collective and according to trends...and reinforces their own narratives. A victim of a victim is too much nuances indeed.